It's been about 2 months since I lost a friend.
He was a local pub manager/ graduate student. We met and bonded during the pandemic- both of us far from our homes, country, family.
As these things go, he looked out for me when guys at the pub wouldn't back off and he took an interest in most of the nonsense I threw his way. He was the one who came to me one day and asked, "You know MBTI?"
2 years later, I'm across the street from him on Halloween night. He gets crushed by dozens of other people in a crowd surge and saves the woman in front of him.
One minute, we were talking. 3 hours later, so many people were laid out on the street. CPR can't fix a mangled body. Police, medics, crowd control- too little and way too late.
He's gone. I didn't allow myself to feel the gut-wrenching pain until the next morning train ride and I sobbed like a child in front of god and everybody.
Now, I work more than ever, disassociate more often than not. Today, I saw his gaze in someone else's eyes and I have no place to express how deeply it hurt.
TDLR- for those who have been ripped away from a close dual, how do you pick up the pieces in the aftermath?