Every female ESI that I've gotten close to has told me that they need help with certain things. Te things.
Male ESIs don't say this outright, but instead just obliquely seek out my company. For conversation, for discussions about anything. The males will sometimes say something in an assertive tone of voice, but then will stop and listen. As if they are actually asking what I think about something and desperately need to know, but cannot bring themselves to ask outright for advice.
When your main talent is needed, it is easy to supply it.
In my opinion, the ESIs are not looking for a dad, nor are they looking for someone to tell them what to do. They just want some advice from someone who knows what they are talking about.
Strat wrote that an ESI is the only type which can supply an LIE with exactly what they need and how they need it. I'd say that works both ways. LIEs are not out to be an ESI's daddy, nor are they out to tell the ESI what to do or think, but rather we take the course of offering advice and opening doors, and the ESI then has to decide for themselves what they want to do.
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