@Rune Not consciously anyways. In a social gathering I do prefer others to initiate contact for sure, but I'll switch roles as needed. If other people sit idle long enough I usually am the one who will break the silence and initiate, but I find it draining when I have to do too much of this. Similarly, I can contribute quite a lot of expressive energy, but I like other Fe-competent people to also be present too because I don't want to be the sole person pumping energy into the interaction
Teacher ramblings incoming:
I run into this a lot teaching English classes. It's very draining for me when I have to teach a very quiet reserved class because I try to pump energy into that and it just gets swallowed. In a more mirthful class I just throw in my bit here and there and can continuously contribute energy in a sustainable way without the momentum dying. Especially in quiet classes, I struggle to work with teachers who don't understand a class's "momentum" because they'll very often not contribute enough Fe, the energy will die, students stop engaging, and I have to work really hard to build it back up. This isn't a problem in classes which are naturally high energy because there's no danger of them losing momentum even if my co-teacher is entirely incompetent at providing it. Of course either extreme isn't ideal, but I'd much rather have to reign in a class that's a little too wild than have to draw engagement out of an overly reserved class. I can handle hyper kids fine - kids are supposed to want to talk with their friends, pass notes back and forth, and be a bit silly - but nothing makes me as nervous or self-conscious as silence when I ask the class a question. It's difficult for the kids too because it's scary to talk when no one else is saying anything
I suppose I'm not consciously thinking of duality as much just because I'm so-first and focused more on what I need in a group setting. In terms of a close friendship I want someone who will invite me to do outdoor stuff I wouldn't otherwise do on my own, or spur me to do things especially if they figure out the logistics of making them happen so I don't have to. As far as a relationship goes, I want someone who is playful, isn't afraid to bully me a little, tries to understand my psychology, loves me for my quirks, and who is genuinely interested in my ideas about things. Bonus points if they also fit the things I want in a close friendship
Does it sound like I'm wanting people to be my dual? I'm not sure