I believe I'm an sx(7)/sp, i do not really engage in a lot of so stuff. Nearly everyone in my life is a social dominant or is sx blind. My mom and her husband and second boyfriend (and third boyfriend) are sx-blind (so/sp and sp/so respectively) and they're both really into polyamory, they say they cannot stand giving love to one person exclusively because they feel that "you can spread the love and give it to one instead of being locked to one person, and giving love to just one person is limiting" but all the time I have never felt the same way personally.
In terms of sexual preferences and whatnot, I could never imagine doing things like orgies and threesomes and swinging, etc. Also, from my personal experience, sexual stuff and intimacy is an incredibly private thing for me. I never feel comfortable discussing it in public unless I know that I am truly close to someone who will reciprocate. Meanwhile, every single one of the so-doms and sx-blinds in my life seem to discuss it almost like as if it's just normal small-talk or something. I'll be at the dinner table or something like that and my family will be talking about their sexual closeness to somebody out loud as a topic of discussion among the group. They have no problem talking about their genitalia out loud at any time, they have no problems discussing their sexual anatomy and bodily processes out loud, like periods and etc. (which okay, I get that periods are normal, and people will probably come after me for shaming women's bodies or something like that, but imagine me as a dude saying something out loud like "ah man I haven't jerked off in a while and I had a wet dream all over my bed sheets, man i hate it when that happens" in such a casual, friendly way...? like it's gross if the intimacy is not established... same goes with periods for example) and they seem to say it as if it's just something natural and normal, and that people should stop being 'sexually oppressed'. Which sure, I understand, sex is natural and not scary, but in my eyes, do we really need to be discussing these intimate details out loud?
And with regards to relationships, I mean in typical sx fashion, I just imagine myself being committed to one girl and her being my partner for life where we do everything and we are one. There's no formalities, we just click and it's this constant phase of loving. There's no restrictions, strong boundaries, formalities/relationship 'status' or 'expectations' from the relationship, we are just together and that's it. I expect that on the first date, we click and bond immediately, I take her to my house, show her around, get down to business if you know what I mean, and we stay together. We just kind of fall in love and not only is she my one and only girlfriend, but she's also like my best friend who I do everything with. Like as if we are one. I get that many people will say that isn't realistic, but I'm just kind of saying my fantasy, or at least my idea of what would be best fitting for me if I could have it.
My sx-blind parents are different, they both willingly have a dozen different partners (they are polyamorous) and feel that they get suffocated and overwhelmed whenever they themselves or someone else gets way too close and personal and intense with them (or 'oversteps their boundaries'). Not to mention they both have strongly said they do not believe in true love or love at first sight. They'll be friends with someone for 9 years, and then completely out of the blue, they will start dating this person just because they wanted to 'give it a go'???? Also often they don't even have sexual interest in the person and they're still dating them. And in my head I'm thinking, "WTF?? you didn't just start dating this person when you met them immediately? it took you 9 years to 'get to know this person' and 'become good friends', and you're still barely intimate??" Not to mention, the parents will often have their respective partners in the same house at the same time, as in like mom's second boyfriend in the house with her main husband, and husband's girlfriend in the presence of both mom and her second boyfriend, and mostly I'm just thinking "what???? how on earth does this work?? i can't even imagine going on a double date with another couple that ISN'T dating my girlfriend, much less inviting my girlfriend to the house in the presence of not only my main girlfriend, but her boyfriend too??? like how is this possible?????" My mom is an ESTJ ESI 2w1 so/sp and her husband is an ISTP xLI 5w6 sp/so, also I'm pretty sure their respective polyamory partners are their socionics duals, and they seem to get along much better with their polyamorous partners and have both admitted this (with regards to intimacy, getting along, personal interests, etc.), but have told me that they remain husband and wife because of some weird formality thing?? Idk, it's confusing lmao
Anyways, my opinion put to the side, I'm sorry if I happened to upset anyone by sharing my thoughts, but my thoughts are not necessarily the point of this; what is your instinctual stacking and what are your views on relationships and sex in general? What do sx people think of monogamy/polyamory vs. so people? What do sx people imagine 'boundaries' as vs. so people? etc. I'd be interested to hear it. Like I said, I'm pretty sure I'm sx7/sp. If any other sx people are out there, or maybe so-blinds, I'd love to hear your thoughts on my parents' approach to relationships to see what you have to say about it as an sx person (but also of course, any sp or so people feel free to share as well! )