Originally Posted by
timber
Is this a new trend? I don't know.
Ive had sex with a few married guys. Not proud of that and I don't actively look for it as it goes against my values. Golden rule.
I've also hooked up with bisexual/straight guys who only want to have sex with a guy when they are high on cocaine. Its like, I oblige and don't overthink it for them. A kiss is not a contract.
Maybe that's the issue, women over think things these days? High expectations? I can't see how that would be different now as opposed to decades ago..?
I follow some rich guy who travelled to the Philippines and inpregnanted foreign woman with a baby. He proudly takes care of that baby and baby Momma, but will not marry her. He says he enjoys how woman in other parts of the world treat men with admiration and adoration. I also have a friend who married an Australian woman. I think the bottom line there is that North American woman are high maintenance, (as they should be this isn't a value judgement statement, its an objective observation). Woman in North America are above being criticized. Meaning the act of criticism to save their feelings and standing. I'm not saying they are being criticized for being a woman, I'm saying that being a woman makes them above the act of criticism. For example, if I was talking with some guys about something I knew to be true, and they are wrong, I will tell them that. If you do that to a woman or a girl in my country, she takes it as a personal assault on her as a person, or a woman. ofc, this isn't true at all points in all time, its a general rule of thumb. Everything is on a gradient. I think what is being said here is that NA women have been taught (and this isn't saying something negative towards the "teacher" there is no teacher. This is simply "the way she goes" as things evolve and change and transform), that to adore a man is to give him something of yourself and giving something means you are committed to the long term outcome and this might undermine you as a person and your social standing.
I worked with a young 23 year old woman who believed that any sex that objectifies the other person is wrong. I'm not sure this is the pinnacle of feminism. So a woman is not an object, but a part of what is sexy is objectifying certain parts of the human body? its like cutting off a part of your nose to despite your face. There is probably room for improvement. I think this is the dellema of this era. How can a woman enjoy sex for its own sake without the political underpinnings of the sex? Doesn't birth control free the sexes?
Looking over this post it would seem that companionship in this instance is 1. pleasurable sex without strings 2. adoration without strings.
I'm not sure how the sexes can be reconciled or even if there is a problem that can be fixed. imho the solution lies in going back to an animalism world view between the sexes and also appreciating there ARE differences.