Do we NEED Duality?

[AWellArmedCat]

Questions of need are unanswerable if a goal isn't specified. For example, "Do we need water?" only works as a question because we all assume you mean "Do we need water to live?" It might seem pedantic, but it's important. Do we need duality for... what exactly?

I don't think we need duality to be happy. A lot of people seem to be living perfectly happy lives while single or in a long-term relationship with a nondual (even with a conflictor in some cases). If you're asking if we need it in order to become "whole" then "whole" also needs some kind of definition. Our ideas of what a "whole" psyche look like are very likely going to be different in some ways and similar in others. Even so, I'm doubtful that we need it for that unless you bake "being in a dual relationship" into the definition of being whole. Perhaps the question is about whether we need duality to accomplish some vague psychological work like "being dualized". Even if we set aside how vague the idea of "being dualized" is, I think it's more likely that whatever it is, it can occur through relationships with a wide variety of people. You don't need just one person to be everything for you. That's a lot of pressure to put on someone. I think you can get bits and pieces of whatever you need from many different people in your life.

Additionally, I would be suspicious that someone who argues that you absolutely need it for whatever reason may be operating under a circular definition which boils down to something like, "You need duality so that you can be dualized, which is what happens when you have duality."

That being said, I would very much like to find a dual. The dynamic sounds nice