Adventures in Dating

[Lord Pixel]

Red = ...Red Flags. / The rest of the colors are up to interpretation...

If I may give a humble opinion, the problem is that you don't "feel loved/desired" by her or at least not enough. You need her to want you as much as you want her (I'm like that too !). If you feel comfortable enough to speak your mind freely without risking hurting her feeling (which should be a given at this level of the relationship) You should tell her that she is "hard to read" and that you need "things" (let that open to her interpretation) to be more explicit and less equivocal.

Moreover, If you feel better in her presence then stay, if you feel worse then leave. It's as simple as that.

Some of these are red flags for him, probably because he's alpha and not Fi and not type 4, for someone with type 4 and Fi this sounds like exactly what they'd want. Speaking from experience.