Quote Originally Posted by MissDucki View Post
I will be blunt, I have done that. I don’t like many men as a type 6 but I will let you know always that I want you if I do. I can be straightforward in that. I also do really relate about fearing the steadfastness. When your oriented to deal with the fires, you get nervous when you see no fires lol. Honestly, when I feel this way. I wish the men would do something a bit over the top to show his feelings for me. That puts me at ease that he’s invested and that it’s not just for bullshit. Like taking to me a really nice dinner or getting something really personal. I feel like if they do that, then I know it’s not “bullshit” so to speak. Weird, I know. Just, that seems to put me ease and chill out. It’s like seeing a good fire instead of no fire at all and that’s worse.
You really pinpointed something that I couldn't put into words for a long time, about the feelings I've been having. It's like a ball of fear that rises in the gut when the relationship is on autopilot, which makes me act out and doubt the whole relationship. For my past partners it has been complicated to understand that my need for reassurance is constant. I find it hard to discern when 'everything is fine', so even when it's clear to others need it "told" to me. I've been working on self-soothing and that helps tho.