I think my matches are getting better, touch wood. Happy girl.
I think my matches are getting better, touch wood. Happy girl.
Originally Posted by Bethany
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell猫が生き甲斐
Going to be spending all day tomorrow with the girl I mentioned before. We've been texting pretty much constantly and Socionics came up by accident. She seems very interested in it! I might have a type guess for her soon. Currently I'm pretty sure she's a sensor at the very least given how pragmatic her interests and pursuits all seem to be (studying medicine, her main hobby is working out with her friends like constantly, and she hasn't really engaged with much imaginative media like anime/manga/etc.). I suspect Ep temperament, but kind of don't think SLE so am wondering if she could be SEE. MBTI is fairly well-known in Japan so she actually has already tested in that. She said she got ESFJ-turbulent
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
not that happy haha
IF things go well : cancel your plans to leave, move to Aomori City, and in the future marry her. Live happily ever after.
The decisive thing is not the reality of the object, but the reality of the subjective factor, i.e. the primordial images, which in their totality represent a psychic mirror-world. It is a mirror, however, with the peculiar capacity of representing the present contents of consciousness not in their known and customary form but in a certain sense sub specie aeternitatis, somewhat as a million-year old consciousness might see them.
(Jung on Si)
Unfortunately @Nobita from Japan is not a Forum member but his videos are very interesting. This one fits this thread imho.
By the way, what's his Type ?
Things have indeed gone well. I dropped her off at the train station this morning before work ^^;
We're also gonna spend like three days together this weekend and I can't wait!
I can't believe I didn't meet her earlier in my time here though... The thing is although of course I *do* have the option to stay, I have told my family who I'm incredibly close to that I wouldn't be recontracting for a fifth year so many times now. If it was just cause they didn't want me too, that would be one thing, but it's more than that because my grandpa's health has really not been good, and my dad told me yesterday the doctor told him he'd "be surprised if he had more than 8 weeks"
I'm going back to visit for 3 weeks for Christmas and I hope that's not too late. One of my grandma's is also on the iffy side health wise... I already lost my beloved cat I had since I was a child while I was stuck here because of corona and couldn't go back to see him. I was the human he was closest to and most comfortable with and that hurt bad enough, but I can't have that happen with a grandparent...
Still... I don't want my time here to be done. Especially not now. I feel like I don't have a choice, or like if I make the choice to stay I'm somehow betraying my family. I think I need to go back at least for awhile. Then maybe I can return to Japan again... I told her as much before we got too intimate and she said she could wait if it came to that. I said that was a very easy thing to say now, but probably a very difficult thing to endure in reality. We talked about it for quite awhile and then were just kinda quiet a long time before she asked if for now at least I would be hers and I said yes because of course I did...
It's not a simple situation. I wish it were.
In any case, it's going very well now, and we've spent the whole day texting. I really wanna be with her... ❤
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
So... actually because she has no classes left for her graduate school program, just studying, she said she could probably stay a lot longer than 3 days. Like maybe closer to 3 weeks ^^
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
Had a date with a Beta NF. We got comfortable super quickly and she was incredibly satisfying to flirt/banter with, but i feel like she’s gonna lose interest once she really gets to know me and has to endure enough awkward silences outside of the bedroom. Our connection seems to be entirely rooted in lust for now, which is a little disappointing
edit: she apparently found our communication “effortless” and thinks we both share the same love language
Last edited by Averroes; 11-23-2022 at 03:04 PM.
So my understanding has indeed evolved somewhat.
I now present...
A tentative deductive typing that's probably wrong:
ILE, ESE, SEI, LII
EIE, SLE, LSI, IEI
SEE, LIE, ILI, ESI
LSE, IEE, EII, SLI
Not likely to be IJ temperament. Too active, not at all "inert" or "rigid" in any sense. Took more initiative in starting our relationship than I'd expect from an IJ. Rule out LII, LSI, ESI, EII
ILE, ESE, SEI
EIE, SLE, IEI
SEE, LIE, ILI
LSE, IEE, SLI
Not likely to be NT. Way too much emphasis on people and very little on systems/things. Rule out ILE, LIE, ILI
ESE, SEI
EIE, SLE, IEI
SEE
LSE, IEE, SLI
Pretty emotive and tested as MBTI ESFJ-T. Probably F type so rule out SLE, LIE, LSE, SLI
ESE, SEI
EIE, IEI
SEE
IEE
Probably not Ego-Ni given personal lack of proclivity towards imaginative activities (though she seems to enjoy Ni as I express it). Rule out EIE, IEI
ESE, SEI
SEE
IEE
Relatively volitional, and really into exercise/fitness. Ne-base is probably not possible. Rule out IEE
ESE, SEI
SEE
Probably not EJ. Just not that "pushy" and restless. Seems very laid back. Rule out ESE
SEI
SEE
Though volitional, seems unlikely to be Se-base, at least when combined with Fi. Gamma values really aren't that apparent. Feels more alpha to me as far as surface-level vibes go. Rule out SEE
SEI
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
On review, this is actually very likely her type I think! Messing around with this tool (https://sociotype.xyz/d) I end up arriving at SEI or SEE no matter how I approach it. She's for sure an Ethical Emotivist, and that alone is sufficient to narrow things down to SEI, IEI, SEE, IEE. She also seems like a pretty straightforward example of a Sensing type. Like it really wasn't even hard to arrive at that conclusion. So for sure it'd have to be between SEI and SEE. Given she typed ESFJ-T in MBTI, I find it echoes my own typing journey in a sorta funny way. I also got caught between extinguishment pairs IEI and IEE with EIE as sort of another potential third option. I wonder if that happens a lot
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
I’m talking to a guy who I’ve spoken to before on another app. He looks different and now seems like a different type. He seems very nice. Talking to an SEE too.
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 11-27-2022 at 05:31 PM.
What do you think she VIs as?
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“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
maybe SLI
actually ESE also makes sense
https://linktr.ee/tehhnicus
Jesus is King stops black magic and closes portals
self diagnosed ASD, ADHD, schizotypal/affective
Your face makes your brain and sociotype – how muscle use shapes personality
I want to care
if I was better I’d help you
if I was better you’d be better
Human Design 2/4 projector life path 1
Just got completely dressed down for 3 minutes by the EIE I was dating for being an unambitious loser and not giving an adequate, unprompted explanation for why I live in a slightly bad area with my parents instead of paying 1800 to live with roommates or in a rat infested studio
She could’ve been kinder, but I do feel like I’m not living properly or motivated enough to take that next step in my life. I was attracted to her refinement and haughtiness but never expected it to blow back on me like this since I have a career.
Last edited by Averroes; 11-28-2022 at 12:19 PM.
I'm sorry, that sucks
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
SEI as a guess..from the way she is posing, but not sure
maybe an introvert
she looks a little shy, she hides a little
but from one picture it's pretty much a guessing game 99.9% of the time
@Averroes it’s not that uncommon for people to live with their parents in 2022..people can be dicks when they’re dating. Ignore, and next please
Yeah, I know a single picture isn't nearly enough. Honestly even video can be misleading. Basically everything other than real life interactions spread out over time in different lightings with different backdrops etc. will yield somewhat limited results I think. I was just sort of randomly curious what people thought off the cuff... and maybe also bragging just a little... ^^;
In other news, we're currently living together since her parents' place is kinda far away and she doesn't have to be there for classes right now since she's graduating soon
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
@AWellArmedCat Yay, enjoy. I secretly hope she is SEI because I think lookalike can be one of the nicest ITR. Signs of being SEI..like to talk a lot about subjects they are confident in, like to rant/be negative, decent general knowledge and wisdom, find it hard to contextualise themselves in a situation, have a few beliefs they are very passionate and adamant about..adorable and hot..heart of a poet, enjoy
personal well-being is a priority for them too
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 12-10-2022 at 12:28 PM.
IThe crux of the issue for her is that she kept giving me Fe hints (“you live here?!?!” “You’re kidding right?”) and instead of using that opportunity to explain that I’m not a deadbeat and was working towards moving out, I was just insulted and confused and told her she could leave if she wanted to. Would you say I was being a dumb, clueless guy in that situation? I can understand the culture shock and don’t think it’s unreasonable for a woman to want to know if you’re a deadbeat or not, but I just didn’t have the same bias against living in public housing that she does: it’s a decent sized apartment, I’ve never had issues/been mugged, and it’s a building full of elderly people and working families for the most part. I would’ve responded way better to an honest conversation about my goals and experience living there instead of shitting on it and expecting me to read her mind@Averroes it’s not that uncommon for people to live with their parents in 2022..people can be dicks when they’re dating. Ignore, and next please
I guess I’ll just have to wait a year before I can date anyone above 24 seriously unless their family’s poor also
Last edited by Averroes; 11-29-2022 at 06:32 PM.
These things come up when dating, that's for sure. I try to be honest and direct without making a big deal about it. My very modest job and living space. Then I stand for who I am, that's always a good thing. But it's not always easy, sometimes I fail. Have I really accepted it myself? Dating is a lot about your public persona and one cannot escape that. Maybe your experience is a step towards becoming more comfortable with your situation? Can require some friction and suffering, which you just got.
The decisive thing is not the reality of the object, but the reality of the subjective factor, i.e. the primordial images, which in their totality represent a psychic mirror-world. It is a mirror, however, with the peculiar capacity of representing the present contents of consciousness not in their known and customary form but in a certain sense sub specie aeternitatis, somewhat as a million-year old consciousness might see them.
(Jung on Si)
A week or so ago I matched with a cute guy but I acted a bit weirdly and he unmatched me. I thought he looked quite cool and got excited. Like the type of guy I’ve fallen for before that wasn’t right for me maybe
then I matched with another guy, the one I mentioned earlier in the thread and now I’m really nervous because he seems really nice and smart and normal
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 11-30-2022 at 07:04 PM.
@Averroes I think you know if she was being rude..Someone on here said that in illusionary relationships it’s often down to the maturity of the extrovert whether or not the relationship will start/work. Also, chemistry seems highly important in these relationships- with ILEs I think I know if I like them fairly quickly. I annoyed an ILE guy on an app who looked ok, we matched a couple of times and I ignored him a bit..he got annoyed in the end and unmatched me. I think Tallmo’s advice is good. Honestly, if you’re a genuinely nice guy, you probably should be with quite a nice, non-judgemental woman. EP/IP and EG/IJ relationships don’t seem that easy to get started. There can be some misunderstandings at first- not to say you should let EJs off the hook if they’re rude at first..but at the same time bear in mind that they might not be used to IJ/EJ interaction..
Using apps, whilst also having type knowledge whilst also learning about dating is a lot to contend with..but I have felt like I was moving forward..it’s not a waste of time
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 11-30-2022 at 06:57 PM.
She definitely behaves very caregiver-y. I was really surprised to come home and find the bed neatly made, clothes all folded and put away, and grocery shopping all done. She also found a new way to hang up the laundry so it dries faster (I don't have a dryer). For dinner she showed me how to make Japanese fried chicken ^^@AWellArmedCat Yay, enjoy. I secretly hope she is SEI because I think lookalike can be one of the nicest ITR. Signs of being SEI..like to talk a lot about subjects they are confident in, like to rant/be negative, decent general knowledge and wisdom, find it hard to contextualise themselves in a situation, have a few beliefs they are very passionate and adamant about..adorable and hot..heart of a poet, enjoy
I don't think I'm wired to expect caregiver behaviour so it really caught me off-guard, but I was grateful lol
She seems super Alpha overall. So does her family. Her mom is just chill and hanging out in the living room with their little dogs, snacking, drinking tea, and reading all day. Her dad spends all his spare time taking photos in nature. Her mom is like her twin too. She's a nurse and looks exactly like an older version of my girlfriend who is going to start work as a doctor soon. The Si of their household is palpable
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
I love her. Sounds like a nice family too.
It's so funny that you have this firm belief in lookalike. I still don't see it, because I have never been able to connect with IEI, despite some decent superficial chemistry in the beginning. And my parents are ESI+LSI, and they have had some major communication problems and unrelatedness to each other. I still hope that you have seen something that I haven't, but I can't help thinking that maybe you don't know the SEIs well enough.@AWellArmedCat Yay, enjoy. I secretly hope she is SEI because I think lookalike can be one of the nicest ITR. Signs of being SEI..like to talk a lot about subjects they are confident in, like to rant/be negative, decent general knowledge and wisdom, find it hard to contextualise themselves in a situation, have a few beliefs they are very passionate and adamant about..adorable and hot..heart of a poet, enjoyBut what do I know, maybe you have had great relations to SEI.
The decisive thing is not the reality of the object, but the reality of the subjective factor, i.e. the primordial images, which in their totality represent a psychic mirror-world. It is a mirror, however, with the peculiar capacity of representing the present contents of consciousness not in their known and customary form but in a certain sense sub specie aeternitatis, somewhat as a million-year old consciousness might see them.
(Jung on Si)
Lol it's just my personal fave. The thing is I don't have great relationships with them actually, I'm too quiet for them. I do have an SEI friend but it's very business-like. It's not super easy. I think we tried hard with each other and just accepted that it's sometimes a bit awkward, and it doesn't matter because we both make an effort and sometimes it just feels super nice and interesting (I feel happy after seeing her, it's strange), plus we have friends in common. I worked with one SEI male for a year and that felt much more natural, we really got on..then I worked with another and we had intense superficial chemistry and it took us a long time to realise just how superficial it was. (Or simply way too intense, depending on how you look at it).It's so funny that you have this firm belief in lookalike. I still don't see it, because I have never been able to connect with IEI, despite some decent superficial chemistry in the beginning. And my parents are ESI+LSI, and they have had some major communication problems and unrelatedness to each other. I still hope that you have seen something that I haven't, but I can't help thinking that maybe you don't know the SEIs well enough.
I can think of three lookalike couples who seem like decent couples, only one I know well. My brother lives with a lookalike friend too, and I observe people being friends with lookalikes. I'm not sure how common SEI/IEI friends are..I don't know it may be that it's an easier friendship if you don't have much of a subtype (because I have a little bit of a subtype at least), or just better between some types. It's funny I seem to have collected some matches recently- one is SEE, one is SEI..and they're just there...I couldn't talk much to the SEI because I knew we would get on and I decided the SEE seemed..more appealing. Is it a coincidence that I was looking for an SEI...(edit, I don't mean looking I mean looking out for) and I might have found one. I'm at the point where I'm like, right I am going to give it a go with someone. (I've also found a nice SLE but don't wanna talk about that lol). But yeah, maybe we are just destined to end up with certain types? I think I've always gone for duals and IPs because my dad is SLI..similar types. Maybe I like the idea of IP relations because I'm easy going...it's quite a friendly relation.
Socionics - the16types.info - Business Relations INFp and ISFp by Stratiyevskaya There is this article too...what I imagine about these couples is that they get into a nice rhythm, and it feels less awkward than at first. I can also picture people falling for lookalikes who aren't quite right for them..but staying with them anyway because it's not unbearable.
I admit I romanticise it, I think the more exciting lookalike matches probably aren't built to last....but then maybe some are, and maybe it's just that they aren't for me..
I also have two other SEI friends who I imagine I'll see every now and again, during my life. It's an interesting bond. It could be more of an SF/NF thing rather than lookalike specifically..
I think the stronger ITR are the ones that don't seem that interesting lol. Apart from dual. But the most important things is probably a good connection. I've matched with some ok IEIs/ at least one LSI...but something tells me it would be an easier life with an SEI. And though I have liked ILIs in the past, I think they'd make me dwell on my past problems too much.
Sorry kept editing and turned into an essay...
oh also I think for romance I only like SEI-fe..I find that really interesting. Similar to how I don't fancy EII men...I don't think I fancy SEI-si. (Hard to say for sure). They just seem almost like women or something, does that make sense? Not that I literally think of them as feminine, but that their energy is too similar to mine or something
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 12-01-2022 at 08:22 PM.
You guys have to stop screwing around and start making babies.
The quality of women I attract on dating sites is terrible. They are all gross looking. The problem is that majority of pretty girls online arent't that pretty. They just select a couple of good pictures and that's it. I'm used to girls falling for me in real life. Not just the girls, but majority of girls and especially the pretty ones. "Leo, let's go clubbing, my sister is coming to town". They try and they fail. Funny thing. Today, I switched to international mode in Tinder. I got tens of obese young sluts from US. They were all pretty bad looking and none of them swiped on me. Haha, fucking losers. Who's gonna fuck them anyway.
@one it’s not ‘surprisingly’, super-ego can be a very good ITR, especially if you are a well-balanced individual
my inner ILI is on a mission to spread the truth lol
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 12-02-2022 at 10:26 AM.
I'm kinda surprised you say this actually. I've never had any issues with SEIs before. They're a pretty hard type not to get along with I feelIt's so funny that you have this firm belief in lookalike. I still don't see it, because I have never been able to connect with IEI, despite some decent superficial chemistry in the beginning. And my parents are ESI+LSI, and they have had some major communication problems and unrelatedness to each other. I still hope that you have seen something that I haven't, but I can't help thinking that maybe you don't know the SEIs well enough.
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
Day 10 of living together and so far so good! I don't think either of us are looking forward to her having to go back to Aomori City next week.
We were out at dinner the other night and she told me how much she likes that I'm not bothered by showing affection while we're out and she half-jokingly said she doesn't think she'll ever be able to date a Japanese guy again (Japanese guys are rather famously stereotyped as not even willing to be seen holding hands - just a stereotype to be sure, but she said her last boyfriend would absolutely never hold hands in public and it's more common than you might think here). I don't feel like I'm going overboard on the PDA, but apparently it's a lot for what she's used to.
Also yesterday she took me to the gym and I followed her workout routine. I don't think I've ever been to a gym before. I did taekwondo for many years in the US and took a few kendo classes here, but I've never been to an actual gym gym. Anyways, I learned that despite being the average height of a fifth grader she could probably carry me out of a burning building without any difficulty. Her workout nearly killed me
Anyways, here's another pic of her. This time in front of a Life Flight helicopter. She's the short one in the middle
LifeFlight-min.jpg
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
If SEIs are easy to get along with as a type then that's not connected to the ITR. The ITR will manifest later. I don't have any issues with IEI either, it's just that we don't really connect despite of promising chemistry in the beginning.
The decisive thing is not the reality of the object, but the reality of the subjective factor, i.e. the primordial images, which in their totality represent a psychic mirror-world. It is a mirror, however, with the peculiar capacity of representing the present contents of consciousness not in their known and customary form but in a certain sense sub specie aeternitatis, somewhat as a million-year old consciousness might see them.
(Jung on Si)
@AWellArmedCat do you know her subtype? I’m fascinated by SEI-fe in particular. I was at a rave earlier in the year and a young good looking lad kept following me around like a little kid following their sibling around, it confirmed all my beliefs that SEI-fes are my soul mates. Despite the age gap, there was instant connection. I would call it romantic but it’d feel a bit unethical lol
anyway I just realise it might be impolite to ask you about the subtype..but also happy for you, hope all is well
i am chit-chatting with a nice guy atm, and can’t wait to meet him, it feels positive..
also on SEI note, I am feeling grateful for my SEI-si friend, I have always thought she has a refreshing energy. Also a boyishness about her oddly, lol, weird IEI fancying everyone, everything. IEE are like this too lol.
Last edited by Bethanyclaire; 12-22-2022 at 03:45 PM.
I'm not sure about her subtype, but Fe wouldn't surprises me! She tests ESFJ in MBTI so that may be indicative of ISFp-Fe. I really doubt she's ESFj in Socionics since irrationality feels pretty obvious in her behaviour
“Things always seem fairer when we look back at them, and it is out of that inaccessible tower of the past that Longing leans and beckons.”
— James Russell Lowell
I love both the subtypes I want both lol
also if you don’t have strong subtypes then it probably doesn’t make much difference in ITR
I think the SLE I’m talking to is SLE-ti. He seems so nice and normal.
Hello I'm back again haha. Happy New Year!
I can't believe it's 2023. It's been 2 years since I joined this forum hahah
I remember I made an account because I started appreciating a dual. And now I'm back again because I think I might have met a dual. Who knows.
Anyway, yeah, so I'm seeing someone atm. Not sure if he's my dual or mirage, I don't really care actually, even if it's mirage it's fine too. Like I said before, I love LSIs, they're "my type" of guy.
So yeah this is the first time I wasn't sure with someone's type. I don't know if it's because I like him so I couldn't see, I don't know.
But yes, he's either LSI-Se or ESI-Se. I can see his aux-Se and tert-Ni, that's how we connect I think, and he's definitely Se-subtype.
So at the beginning I thought he was an LSI.
My first impression of him: he's kinda smart.
Ok look, I don't know how, but I kinda like to "test" people when I start getting to know someone, I just like to see how they respond to my texts, to my questions, my statements, things like that.
And turns out he can keep up!
I would say I have a really high standard of things (and people) and it's not easy to impress me really, but, ah I can't believe I say this, but he made me laugh! So cliche.
But yeah, now I understand why people keep saying that sense of humour is important. I've never thought so because I don't like funny or silly people. But then I met this guy, he's not funny or silly but he's a little bit witty I guess, and I didn't realise I actually enjoyed our conversation. So weird.
So we met online. I guess if not online, we would never meet at all. He's completely from different world, he's very into sports, gym, all those Se-activities.
So from our little chat I can see that he is a passionate person, but not as passionate as I am, I think. He even said so.
Anyway when we finally met for the first time, I found out he's actually very kind!
Because I was expecting he's an LSI, you know with dom-Ti, most LSIs I know are a bit cold, but nope, he's kind.
But I still think he's an LSI, he could be a kind LSI haha.
He's also calm, so definitely not a SLE or SEE.
But then I realised something.
Usually, when I meet dom-Ti for the first time, I find them so interesting, that's why I'm attracted to LSIs. I keep saying even on my previous posts, I love LSIs. But I don't like ESIs.
So when I met this guy for the first time, I just felt comfortable. It's funny I'm not attracted to him, because I thought I would be if he's really an LSI.
Anyway.
So yes, it's comfort. Well, he is good looking and I thought "ok he's not bad looking" but that's it, it wasn't attraction or anything, but I just felt comfortable.
You know how comfortable? Look, when you meet someone online and finally decided to meet up for a first date, it's usually only for 1 or 2 hours. But we stayed for 7 hours I can't believe it. It's like meeting an old friend.
Ok let me tell you some traits about him:
- He didn't really know what he wanted to do when he was a kid but he's good in math and physics (I can see that he's smart as well) but he said he doesn't really like to study back in school or uni, anyway he did engineering at uni.
- He loves animals! So I said "oh why didn't you want to be a vet instead?" And he said "I don't wanna see them get hurt, I don't wanna meet sick animals" I was like ??? Anyway. He said he would rather be a zoo keeper but the salary is not good. I was like, Ok, you got a point.
- He said he used to play video games when he got free time, but now he wants to do more productive things. I was like, Alright.
- Seems like he pays attention to his apartment, a lot. "Oh my apartment is a mess" "How was your day? I was just doing laundry today" "I have today off, I will just do some cleaning" something like that. I don't really like talking about this things, I like talking more about ideas but anyway..
- He's very observant. It's like he's trying to read me and connect patterns, I don't know if it's his aux-Se and tert-Ni, but I find it cute. One day he said "you're giving me mixed signals" and I was like, Oh yeah keep up with me.
I don't know if it's agressor-victim style, but I kinda like the chase and I like that he doesn't give up on me haha. We always joke around and flirt to each other.
- He's surprisingly confident. One day I said I should get present from Santa this Christmas, and he said "maybe Santa gave you me" haha
- Seems like he has strong opinions when he believes in something, not sure if this is dom-Ti or dom-Fi. For example, he's so mad when government fire people just because they don't take covid vaccines, vaccine should be a choice he said. We have bikes and scooters in our city, but he doesn't like that government charge penalty a lot if we don't wear the helmets, he said we're adults, kids should be wearing helmets of all times but not adults. Haha. Um, what else, he doesn't believe in god, but now that he's older (he's in his mid 30s) he said he should believe in something greater than us.
Haha
I had my first date with a dual who I’ve been talking to for a while. He was nice. It’s funny how much I can idealise someone before actually meeting them, I’d say it was a more realistic and normal version of what I had imagined, but it’s real and that’s better. I hope he wants to meet again, I hope there was a connection despite any of my weird quirks lol. He’s been so nice it’s hard not to idealise it lol. It was a good date. Anyways, let’s see what is next on the agenda.
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