Adventures in Dating

[Rebelondeck]

I dated a lot but this was one of my strangest. After about six months of dating, an ISFj said to me out of the blue: “I want to break up with you but I don't think that I can.” I tried to get more details but no success so I said “Well, let me help you.” Later that day, I got a call from her best friend who I'd never met previously; she asked if we could talk so we met. At some time through the course of the conversation she told me: “If you wanted her back, all you have to do is ask her.” However, all during the conversation, she kept touching me and when we were parting, she suggested that we should date. I thought that although she was attractive, there was something off (scary-like) with her but couldn't put my finger on it. She called several times over the next week or so but I kept the conversation short. I never saw either woman again but every so often for years, I got a change of address card from the friend. I think that I dodged a bullet.

a.k.a. I/O

[Adam Strange]

I dated a lot but this was one of my strangest. After about six months of dating, an ISFj said to me out of the blue: “I want to break up with you but I don't think that I can.” I tried to get more details but no success so I said “Well, let me help you.”

Lol. In every relationship, there comes a point where one person says, "You're either in all the way or out all the way. Which is it?"

Later that day, I got a call from her best friend who I'd never met previously; she asked if we could talk so we met. At some time through the course of the conversation she told me: “If you wanted her back, all you have to do is ask her.”

It sounds like your date's friend was sent on a last-ditch mission to find out "Can This Marriage Be Saved?"

However, all during the conversation, she kept touching me and when we were parting, she suggested that we should date. I thought that although she was attractive, there was something off (scary-like) with her but couldn't put my finger on it. She called several times over the next week or so but I kept the conversation short. I never saw either woman again but every so often for years, I got a change of address card from the friend. I think that I dodged a bullet.

a.k.a. I/O

Sounds like your date's friend was smitten by your Ti and is reaching out from time to time with her Fe.

But yeah, you dodged a bullet with that ESI. Super-Ego seems like it would be a stretch.


*EDIT*
I sometimes wonder how it would be to go through life basing all your decisions on how you feel about something, rather than on an analysis of the facts?
I can say how it is from the opposite perspective: It sucks.

[EUDAEMONIUM]

“If you wanted her back, all you have to do is ask her.”

This made me sad

[Rebelondeck]

This made me sad

To me, those words were an indication of manipulation on someone's part so I decided to take the ISFj at her word - that she really wanted to leave me for whatever reason; so I supported her wish. If she were the instigator of some sort of manipulation, my opinion of her would have changed drastically. The friend did seem to have ulterior motives.

a.k.a. I/O