How do ESIs perceive SLEs and vice versa?
Do you know any successful relations between these types? What do they look like?
What steps would be needed to avoid or mend conflicts and misunderstandings?
ESI-SLE Supervision
How do ESIs perceive SLEs and vice versa?
Do you know any successful relations between these types? What do they look like?
What steps would be needed to avoid or mend conflicts and misunderstandings?
@Bento, I know a female ESI-Se who dated a female SLE-Se for a while. They were both about 21 and exploring relationships. When they were together, being around them was like being in a hothouse for orchids, the Se sexual chemistry just dripped off them.
However, I caught the ESI giving the SLE a disdaining glance as if she were saying, "How can you be so stupid?" I expect their relationship will devolve into distant acquaintances, because the SLE intended to move away.
Supervision can work in a limited kind of way in some cases, particularly if the two people have a lot in common and a lot of shared interests. But ultimately, it has some very serious drawbacks.
ESI are not subtle about their Fi. They will question the living heck out of your morals, they will emotionally manipulate you to come see them "hum? why haven't you come see me? are you mad at me or something?" yeah maybe their Fi supervises everyone lol
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Dual type(as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
from my perspective as a ESI, SLEs are intimidating and ‘ morally confusing ‘. I feel their presence, it’s quite strong to me. They seem so stoic and serious by themselves, but with friends they’re so cheerful ( I’m the same way ).
I know a SLE guy . He’s physically confrontational, provoking. He liked teasing me back then and would poke fun at one of my interest ( which is ironic because he ended up liking the same thing soon after).
The SLE was relentless in his teasing like his ILE brother. I noticed from my experiences with fi polrs that keeping distance from them or cutting communication with them for a while after they did something wrong makes them realize how much of an ass they were, and they leave you alone for a while.
When the SLE teased me, instead of looking at him angrily or defending myself, I ignored him and stayed quiet. I don’t remember how long I did this but it was for a couple of weeks/months(?). That made him reluctant to talk to me as freely as he used to and was more nicer. He was more careful with what he said and I could tell he felt like he had to tip toe around me.
It’s hard for me to understand fi polrs and I’m sure it’s hard for them to understand fi bases. He sees me as judgy, closed off/not communicative.
My experiences with SLEs have been rocky but I don’t dislike them. I do believe we can get along if both of us put effort like any other relationship.
I think the ESI needs to realize they don’t need to take things so personally. The SLE also needs to be mindful to how they can come off as insensitive or especially confrontational.
It depends on subtype too, he’s a SLE-Se and I’m a ESI-Fi. SE subtypes are more unpredictable and intimidating to me, too much SE stresses me out!!
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