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myresearch understands something so well on a deep level it is worth going into I think.
F types don't want anybody- but we need people. T types don't need anybody- but they want people. I like that as a general rule.
I don't want or like anybody but I need them practically. SLE likes me more than I like them usually- but I like the logic of SLE to help me. I prefer being liked then the one that does the liking anyway. I think that is the duality of T/F types. SLE has missed me more than I missed them I think- I only miss and love them because they've missed and loved me. ((I'm pathetically narcisisstic that way...))
F types are too senstive to truly want anybody as I end up being annoyed by everybody in that sense. but I
need them for practical or logical reasons or to just handle some thinking-type thing my pansy feeling type ass doesn't wanna do. I can both "want" or "love" them but I don't trust that with me because of how often my own emotions lie. I like when people just logically make sense to me... I need that. FEELING TYPES ARE SWEET BUT RETARDED AND MENTALLY ILL LOL.
SLE misses IEI more than the IEI misses the SLE but IEI can be dramatic and emotionally manipulate people that we are more sensitive than we really are. I often do love SLEs but I only love them because of their logic and street smarts. there is nothing to LOVE about them because they have Fi polr and are often rude. My two-faced feeling type crap tells me that I should care if people are rude or mean but I really don't as I just mostly care if they make logical sense or not. I care if I myself am nice or mean sometimes depending on the situation but "caring if somebody is an asshole or not" is actually a T type thing - that's how F types end up seducing T types that we want lol. my LII dad always cared about that so much more than my ESE mom.
k I was being kinda humorous and campy and mbit-exaggeration like and too simple as obviously I mean there are a lot of nuances. mutual f sharing is obviously very nice if it's compatible. If it's the wrong thinking or logic for the sensitive pansy F type it often feels like being abused or like hannibal is eating your soul- I mean it still has to be right for me. but if it is the right one it feels more valuable than other feeling stuff. I think this is how the typology interactions occur.
I don't know how to answer your question @
MissDucki because 'independence' can be complicated and I think most people are very independent in some ways but very dependent in others I've always liked the term 'interdependence' better- and yeah people who scream at somebody to be more independent are kinda annoying- why do they care so much? If independence was so valuable they wouldn't waste their own independence telling you to be more independent... I like my own freedom and independence but quite frankly there are just some things I'm naturally bad at and don't mind being 'dependent' and honest that I need other people to fill in those weaknesses lol