To start off, I get it. I’m not brilliantly mischievous ILE. I don’t have an acerbic sense of humor that boasts an endearing, unwitting impertinence.
SEI was my best friend. Wanted to spend time with her every chance I had; I was in the sisterhood for the long haul. I foolishly assumed she saw our friendship the same way. She told me I was too intense, and I know I am...sx-first. She didn’t need all that. I let her go.
She became close to an SLE who was everything I wasn’t. To an extent, I understood the appeal. SLE made her feel needed, which I failed to do. Although, her presence in my life meant so much. Her ability to bring me joy on bad days was unrivaled.
maybe she just didn’t care or like me that much. It happens. But sometimes she reaches out, throws down chips, tells me things that make me think she misses our friendship. But I’m still a bit confused, and don’t want to make the same mistake twice.
my question is, how can an EII make an SEI feel cared for? I’ve been on the other side with ILIs - often they don’t even notice my existence, but the ones who do, while they care, don’t know how to care. They don’t understand my needs.
We are complementary (Ne-Si) subtypes. Theoretically, this is as good as Benefit relations can get (more similar to activity). Is there a way I can optimize this?