Nice thread! I'm back.
You're not wrong. How old is your LIE friend? In duality pairing, both people MUST have high level of maturity.
I used to dislike ESI guys, especially when I was in my late teens or early 20s.
But now seems like I'm starting to admire the qualities in an ESI. Which is a rare feeling for me.
"They have gotten together later in life and stayed together simply because over time and in hindsight, they realized that they felt comfortable and safe with one another. " This. Completely agree.
And I also observed when a long term relationship/marriage couldn't work, each person tends to look for their dual/activity partner.
Again, maturity and comfort.
I'm always aware when I meet an ESI. And as soon as I meet them I'm like "Yikes. Nope." For real.
Maybe it's not about being conscious or aware, but more like being attracted to or interested in that person.
Like I said in my previous posts not long ago, I have no problem finding my dual, but seems like my dual is not able to attract me or make me interested in him, the point is, my dual is not my type.
But I agree about the hereditary thing.
If you're a girl, you will be more attracted to or interested in someone who is like your dad.
And if you're a guy, you will be more attracted to or interested in someone who is like your mum.
So for example, my dad is my kindred, an LSE. I'm actually a daddy's girl, we're very very close.
We're both strong and logical, which explains "my type", strong and logical, hahah, the point is, that is probably why I'm never attracted to dom-Fi males.
This.
And this is I think why, compared to ESI my dual, I'm more attracted to an LSI.
Because LSI is at least a bit similar to LSE my dad, both are dominant thinkers.
It's actually interesting, right?
That reminds me of Prince Harry. He said he married Meghan because she kinda reminds him of his mum, Diana. Both Meghan and Diana are NF.
So, Lolita, is your mum an SEE too?
I don't know if I'm wired to find what I'm most familiar to, because I'm always aware, always notice, every time I meet a guy like my dad, an LSE.
We get along well, and we really get each other hahah some of my best friends are LSE males. (Yes, most of my bestfriends are actually guys. I even thought about doing man of honor instead of maid of honor if I ever get married lol.)
But only as best friends. I always knew I didn't want to have a serious relationship or even marry an Si-aux or Si-dom person. I dislike Si.