Haha, glad I could help! I think too much jargon can sometimes get in the way of stuff that feels more intuitive once you see examples of it, so it's not saying anything bad about you lol.
But yeah, psuedo-confidence of the hidden agenda is a big part of it. The beneficiary immediately spots a problem in the benefactor's valued, 2d sphere, reaches out with some 4d "oh but I could help you with that!" leading, but uses the benefactor's equally 3d but ignored function to deliver it. Which results in a dismissal of "well I'm not dealing with it THAT way lol".
Meanwhile the beneficiary gets some help with their 1D suggestive through the benefactor's 3d creative, while ignoring the fact that it's coming from an equally strong 4d space. "Oh, the problem itself was obvious, but your solution is great!"