2 choice strategies in abundance of dates

[Jarno]

Nowadays with internetdating, there are 100's of people to 'choose' from, which gives a lot of "choice stress". People don't dare to commit that easy, hoping to catch a better fish.

So how do you pick the right partner, do you keep looking, but for how long. When is someone perfect enough.

There has been done research by marketeers cause they are interested in how people choose their products.

There happen to be 2 strategies, when it comes to choosing. You are a maximizer (bad strategy), or a satisficer (good strategy). The difference explained with example:

If there are 100 bottles of parfume and you are a maximizer, you probably end up sniffing all 100 bottles, you compare odor, the prices and the color of the bottles. Although if you go home, you wonder if next week there isn't a better parfume on the market, or if the nr2 bottle that came close, was actually the best bottle. You'll be unhappy due to second guessing.

As a satisficer, you have already in your mind what you are looking for, a sweet odor costing no more than 25 bucks. So now you start at the first bottle and work your way through bottle nr 12 which happens to be sweet odor of a price 20 bucks. You take it, and never doubt again about it. You also don't care about the other 88 bottles that are on the shelf.

I think socionics unfortunately tends to make maximizers or bad satisficers out of people. (Keep dumping great relationships for a bad dual or staying with a dual who has a wrong instinct and wrong tendency, which simply is a bad match. ) This is a downside of socionics, and probably also from internetdating.