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    Default Things learned from supervisor

    It happened that i started observing my supervisor (to a lesser extent, kindred) to learn how I can better psychologically deal with PoLR so it's not as painful.

    They show me how they TRUST and not be anxious about/question instructions, guidelines, official sources.
    Show me how I can let go of neuroticism about every single thing being perfect (optimization =/= perfection or kind of just Te > Ti)

    If I have positive relations with them, if they don't criticize or judge me on my deficiency, and just show me in their actions..
    and most of all if I'm open-minded.. they accessibly, bite-sized show me the value in Te, which I normally want to 1) blatantly devalue 2) kinda skim over, hoping it'll go away on its own

    I observe my superego/contrary too but they help me less in alleviating the painful aspect of PoLR (because they're too alien for that) and more in showing the value of the superego block in general (and what I should do to be a bit better in the domain. such as pay attention to specific wording of things (to me words are taken as a haze of ideas) and sensory SiTe (NOT SiFe) things)

    What's your experience in this?

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    I actually think this is what supervision is in it's essence. You pay attention to them, learn and become a "slave". We are sensitive to our polr.

    It can be useful to be in this mode though, but when the situation changes and I can be myself I notice that it wasn't genuine interest.
    A true sense-perception certainly exists, but it always looks as though objects were not so much forcing their way into the subject in their own right as that the subject were seeing things quite differently, or saw quite other things than the rest of mankind. As a matter of fact, the subject perceives the same things as everybody else, only, he never stops at the purely objective effect, but concerns himself with the subjective perception released by the objective stimulus.
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    That I look too fat and pale at times.

    That I’m actually likable.

    That I have Fi polr ... and don’t catch subtle hints about relationships and changing feelings.

    That I shouldn’t just trust and become close with ESIs who aren’t family members.

    That ESIs are fallible too.

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    Look at a supervisor type as someone who will always be somewhat blind to the supervisee's full capabilities and worth; it's the supervisor's perception and approach that needs to change. I've met quite a few bullying LIEs who insisted on perfection and created unnecessary stress to all those under them. Personal anxiety lessens when one accepts that one is doing one's best so the ball is really in the supervisor's court; if work is painful then I recommend looking for alternate employment with new insight into what you actually need.

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    You're more developed if you can learn from your supervisee.

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    Meh I know what you mean about the official sources thing, but trust your own vision with that stuff too.

    Yes it's technically a Te polr thing but that doesn't mean you are incorrect- I just think Te polrs can really see how somebody is doing something completely for their own selfish purposes and covering it up with 'but I'm being professional!"

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    They just assume that I'd put great care in making money and providing with my skills and also to make sure that I trust their way what is best to be done and it would invalidate my own functioning. They also see my hobbies as work without payback and I see their concept of relaxation and freetime mind numbing at best. Nah.
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