@falk, both my sister and my mother are LSE, and both of them dated strictly on their terms. They laughed at guys who approached them if they didn't like the guy, and both gave ultimatums to their SO's to get them to marry them. Both are in charge of the marriage and the home. Why you'd want this for your future is beyond me, but good luck to you. Bear in mind that in order to make an LSE respond positively to you, you will have to act like an EII. Give that some serious thought.

I'll add that I think Caregiver-Aggressor sex is probably not the best thing in the world. I can say with some authority that Caregiver-Victim sex sucks. But good luck touching her butt.