For me, an EII, my extinguishers (EIEs) are the worst

[persimmonism]

It also depends for me with IEE. One of my closest friends is an IEE-Ne 7. But there are others where i feel the "extinguishment" way more. I think for me it's a bit better with Ne sub because their Fe demonstrative is stronger. I don't get the feeling they take everything i say in the moment so seriously as IEE-Fi.

Perhaps the extraverted extinguisher being a beta versus a delta is a factor just because of the nature of the two quadras (at least for EIE-EII versus IEI-IEE) ?

Even when i feel the extinguishment dynamic more strongly i don't think i feel as undervalued as you describe. Judged, though, yes! I have to hold my tongue and pay attention to my words. I'm too dramatic and verbally provocative and am looked down upon for this.