Quote Originally Posted by sbbds View Post
I think it’s what nanashi mentioned before earlier in this thread, that it can feel like they are not attuned to my desires or needs. I guess I just want to be the more active person, it feels unnatural to me otherwise... it’s as simple as that I think. I feel good when I make the decision, choose and get what I’ve chosen. I think when I was younger I had a lot of my natural desires usurped by overbearing family members, which is why I can’t stand being overbowled now.

I just want to be with someone who feels good about being chosen by me, and who chooses me back (in part because of that).
that makes a lot of sense when you explain it like that