Our Id (especially the demonstrative function) is supposed to be displayed by our actions instead of our words. So in order to attract conflictors, I think it makes sense to just do things and have actions that come from our Id, especially the dem., which seems pretty obvious after you think about it.
Life example: I know someone who I suppose I have a terrible IR with. This person is pretty attractive to me for afar, but as I try to get closer emotionally/psychologically, some things start to get messed up, which is pretty confusing. So I'm considering this person to be a conflictor for now, since she is the person I have the least mental compatibility with. BUT, also she is attracted by actions and not my words. I have experimented using my subcounscious (I guess) mind a lot and although it almost destroyed my mental/physical health, I got the best results with her compared to everyone else.
Have you had any similar experience?