Quote Originally Posted by nice View Post
I am highly suggestible imitating others without consciously knowing. At least that is one of my paranoias.
is this necessarily a bad thing? i think they call its ''positive'' aspect mirroring and its effects on our ability to show to others ''we got them'' are praised (at least in the reality we perceive through objects and form). This does border on manipulation but it seems that it's something most of us have to go through.
That being said, I think I see where you are coming from. We get to hear a lot about the need to figure out our boundaries and identity. IMO what brings peace is striving for integrity (which is always self-integrity) instead of identity and the rest follows. This doesn't mean that the way you act changes overnight (can happen), but even being able/eager to observe your ways without trying to change them and instead just take note of them goes a long way (this relates to my first post in this thread).