@Rebelondeck, I hate to say this, but when I'm not with a long-term permanent partner, I think I devolve to wanting a GF who is on-call. I'm not happy about this side of myself, either. It basically indicates that I will compromise my values just for sex and entertainment. For a while, at least.
Maybe that's the approach those ESI's you spoke of are taking.
I think the thing I worry about in relationships is, "Does this woman really love me?" Weirdly enough, in discussions with that above-mentioned gay ESI-Se 6w7 about the art that I sometimes buy from her, she seems to have a lot of concerns about whether I like it or not. Really, really like it, she means. Like it from my heart, with all my heart, forever and ever.
God, I bought it, didn't I? Settle down, bitch.*
Fuck, maybe undualized Duals share the same fears.
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