Contrary to potential popular belief I don't really idealize/fantasize about the perfect partner. I will only fall for somebody who was there for me in a very realistic way. But if they do then I might start idealizing them lol. I don't really like the 'picture in your head' thing because well... life is different than that. And people who make their decisions based on those things seem asshole-ish and narcissistic 2 me.