wanting to be "defined"

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All dynamics seek to be "seen through", wether by Fi or Ti, and they go around people unconsciously asking "What am I to you?”. In the case of Fe egos the question seems "do you understand me? what's the worth of my thoughts?" while for Te egos it's "what do these feelings mean about me? What's the worth of each of these?"

yeah aggressor-victim as others said too. (Good for you that you begin to see through your own bullshit. The more mature path would be to orient to reality by yourself and stop putting responsibility of your life onto others tho)

Hmm... now that, I have to think more about. But then again I am defining responsibility in Te/Fi terms, ie, making my own money/collecting own resources, again being limited by my own cognition. Nice. More food for thought.

After trying to break away from the responsibility = Te thing... I believe I figured it out.

I am lying to myself, that I am a victim of circumstance. I have given up my personal power to make my own decisions, because "I had to." Because I told myself that was what the external environment demanded of me.

I was speaking to my best friend from college (an IEE, of course) - she knew something was up, "you're not yourself." I told her how annoyed I was at my work, commiserate, Fi pity party, and she said "If you don't like working there, then leave." "How can I leave?! I have bills to pay!" "If you really wanted to leave, you could - you're smart, you can find something else, and if you don't, then you have to ask yourself if you really hate it that much." I got irritated but… she was totally right.

I told my LSE friend that I just want to work a job that I actually want. He told me "You think I like my job?!" implying that I should just take any job I can get. I told him he choose to work his job, so if he doesn't like it he could choose to work somewhere else. He then goes off on me about how he didn't choose to work there but he did it to man up and take care of his mother. It kinda turned into a little argument after that. But if that isn't classic Fi vs Te idk what is.

It was a choice. It is true... I will say that I "had" to, be a good responsible mature adult for my family, but stop the bullshit of “it’s not the right time,” because really, any time has the potential to be the right time… and surely, if I actually did (or did not) want it, I would have done it by now.

In other words, get off your ass and do it, stop making excuses. And if you still hesitate and refuse to take action, make peace with the fact you did not actually want it, not that the circumstances are to blame.

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It was a choice. It is true... I will say that I "had" to, be a good responsible mature adult for my family, but stop the bullshit of “it’s not the right time,” because really, any time has the potential to be the right time… and surely, if I actually did (or did not) want it, I would have done it by now.

In other words, get off your ass and do it, stop making excuses. And if you still hesitate and refuse to take action, make peace with the fact you did not actually want it, not that the circumstances are to blame.

Transcending like fuck, into the wokeosphere

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Transcending like fuck, into the wokeosphere

I clearly warned you in chat. About the mental instability shit. Ayy