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    Comment below with your type and what you think will make you and your dual "ready" for each other. Or do you think this idea of "ready" is nonsense because it's duality and you don't have to be?

    In other words, when can this relationship be the most mutually beneficial without descending into the hell that Stratiyevskaya describes between duals who (in my opinion) seem severely lacking in self-awareness or even basic human decency.

    Musing how--at earlier times in my life--an SLE would have either scared or repelled me and I would have just ignored them. Now I've noticed that if I actually speak my mind to them it seems to change something in them, which was surprising to discover. (They actually think about the feedback I give! They actually LIKE my inclination to play psychologist and dig into their emotions. Mind-blowing...)

    "Ready" for the IEI:
    -A strong sense of self. This is essential but seems to take IEIs time to develop, unlike Fi doms.
    -Not being swayed from their vision. If the SLE doesn't line up with the vision, it's not the right SLE.
    -Personal boundaries that are enforced without apology. This seems to be one of the only ways to create real respect.
    -A life outside the relationship (probably a good idea for all the types): healthy routines, friendships, therapy, exercise.
    -The ability to be very, very direct. Again, this takes time to develop for an IEI. The Strat article describes the IEI (in what I would call an "unconscious" state) as someone who has to use emotional manipulation to get what they want from the SLE, but I think this is what fuels the unhealthy dynamic. Learning to be direct is the best.

    Still pondering what makes an SLE the most ready for the IEI....
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    @Emily From what I've read, Duality isn't a thing you "prepare" for. It just "happens" if that makes any kind of sense. It ain't like you plan to go to the bar at the 29th of X month because stats say that's when your "dual" tends to slum it up on the cheap bar scene when they're most "vulnerable" towards forming a relationship with their "dual" if ya know what I mean.

    I know it's a bit rich coming from a Theist like me but "have faith" is my recommendation. Once you have well and truly "gotten your shit together" you will find yourself swarmed with enticing romantic prospects. If you have some modicum of wisdom you will find a mate worthy of you that will be equally thankful that they found someone worthy of themselves .

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    After one has had several failed relationships and libido has slipped to second place.....

    a.k.a. I/O

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    I was in my mid 20s and recently divorced.

    Came out of nowhere.

    As Jerry Springer as this sounds, dual even drove me to my Court Case. Lol, what a weird world it ends up being.

    edit: they dropped the charges. I was wrong and payed for it, but fuck that POS until the day I die.

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    There's no such thing as ready, imo. It just happens or it doesn't.

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    You are never ready until it happens.

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    ITT: Mysterious non-answers

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    ready for EII men:
    stop daydreaming about it and talk to her.


    ready for EII women
    stop thinking your ugly and not enough and that he doesn't really like you.


    ready for LSE men:
    stop going after anything with a nice set of tits(and paying for everything all the time).


    ready for LSE women:
    stop looking at his resume.
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    ime:

    - EIE having a sturdy sense of purpose. I'm 25 and have a couple of EIE friends my age and I noticed we were chaotic, manipulative and just out to have a good time until very recently when we integrated a sense of meaning and direction to channel the Fe into.
    - Catastrophic mood swings pulled into line (I'm still working on this - I have an strong sense of identity with what ever I'm feeling and impulsively act on it as though it is gospel).
    - Ability to be decisive and stand up against pressure. This is just general weakness but I think I had a hard time with Se egos pushing back against me (more so Se-doms than Se-creatives).
    - Readiness to accept that you maybe be the one doing all the talking but you're definitely not the one calling the shots

    Based on the one LSI I do know well:
    - Willingness to be emotionally exposed and go on deep dives about feelings.
    - The knowledge that sometimes you can be blunt and hurtful by just being brutally honest
    - Recognition that you can't always get what you want by force
    - Readiness to accept change and growth in your life and habits
    - Ability to let your partner think they are calling the shots whilst you actually keep them in line

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    I think that a lot of the benefits of duality are connected with getting out of one’s particular way of interpreting the world. People who are attached to their own perceptions of the world, or think that people who see things differently are stupid, aren’t likely to like their duals at all. This isn’t part of Model A or mainstream Socionics, but I really do think there are people who choose not to use/be led by their super-id IEs at all.

    With Alpha SFs, especially SEIs, there’s a type that is not interested in anything new or different, wants to impose their (generally rather banal) conception of how the world should be (ordered and tidy and polite and dull) on everyone (children, spouses, students, anyone over whom they can try to achieve a position of power), and are actively repulsed by people who think differently from them, who are “weird” and have weird ideas, who are prone to accidentally insult people or overlook social norms — so Alpha NTs, especially ILEs. ESEs can be similar, but their equivalent to this is more actively concerned that people act upbeat and positive rather than merely polite, and take it as a personal insult when people aren’t always positive toward them and the world — that their “social face” isn’t appropriate. This type is insufferable; I heard a (male) one once berate a waiter for seeming tired and unhappy.

    As far as Alpha NTs go, my ideas are less clear. I think they might always want/expect Ne stimulation, and so the Alpha SFs can seem boring — other Ne egos, particularly, seem much more interesting and exciting. ILEs particularly want freedom and open possibilities; SEIs usually want a house, kids, and property that has to be frequently maintained. LIIs can be uptight and dogmatic; ESEs’ informality (which in a healthy relationship is mutual and a source of kinship), combined with their lack of Ti-understanding, threatens to make the LII’s mental constructs and efforts meaningless. Also, the LII wants acknowledgement and appreciation; an ESE might have no idea what the LII does and thinks about, and how then could the ESE appreciate the LII’s work?
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    Quote Originally Posted by End View Post
    @Emily From what I've read, Duality isn't a thing you "prepare" for. It just "happens" if that makes any kind of sense. It ain't like you plan to go to the bar at the 29th of X month because stats say that's when your "dual" tends to slum it up on the cheap bar scene when they're most "vulnerable" towards forming a relationship with their "dual" if ya know what I mean.

    I know it's a bit rich coming from a Theist like me but "have faith" is my recommendation. Once you have well and truly "gotten your shit together" you will find yourself swarmed with enticing romantic prospects. If you have some modicum of wisdom you will find a mate worthy of you that will be equally thankful that they found someone worthy of themselves .
    @End, lol, well said, I don't think a meet cute is something you can manipulate into happening or that there's a magical formula for manifesting your dual. Unless you can think of a magical incantation I can recite at the next full moon? I wasn't so much asking what I can do to get/meet a dual as much as how to create a healthy dynamic with them once we're together. But I think we're getting at the same thing: healthy people attract healthy relationships.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FreelancePoliceman View Post
    With Alpha SFs, especially SEIs, there’s a type that is not interested in anything new or different, wants to impose their (generally rather banal) conception of how the world should be (ordered and tidy and polite and dull) on everyone (children, spouses, students, anyone over whom they can try to achieve a position of power), and are actively repulsed by people who think differently from them, who are “weird” and have weird ideas, who are prone to accidentally insult people or overlook social norms
    That sounds ESI, tbh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rusal View Post
    That sounds ESI, tbh.
    Yeah... I was thinking it didn't sound that great. An SEI would be more likely to give you advice on how to be the best kind of weird xD. Or give you details advice on creating your own world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FreelancePoliceman View Post
    I think that a lot of the benefits of duality are connected with getting out of one’s particular way of interpreting the world. People who are attached to their own perceptions of the world, or think that people who see things differently are stupid, aren’t likely to like their duals at all.
    Good stuff.

    ESEs can be similar, but their equivalent to this is more actively concerned that people act upbeat and positive rather than merely polite, and take it as a personal insult when people aren’t always positive toward them and the world — that their “social face” isn’t appropriate. This type is insufferable; I heard a (male) one once berate a waiter for seeming tired and unhappy.
    I've noticed this tendency in a few (not all) ESEs as well. The complete repression of negative emotions is so hurtful in relationships, and it makes me sad they feel they must always be happy and energetic, too. What a burden.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faith View Post
    2. I think that the more attached they are to their vision the more unhealthy they are. IEIs tend to stagnate if they get attached to their vision because things aren’t ‘perfect’. IMO they are most ready when they stop clinging to their idealism because they would idealize the ‘right’ SLE. Idealizing in a relationship is bad.
    Good point with the bolded #2 above, and you're right. Idealizing everything down to the tiniest little point and being unable to accept anything less can be severely limiting. Refusing to listen or expanding your worldview is such a narrow way to live. There has to be some compromise between opening up your worldview but not letting go of one's dreams for someone else--maybe that's what I was getting at by "not letting go of your vision": don't give up who you are or what you want for a romantic partner. The older I get, the more I know myself and what I can and can't give up. It's fun to see what has changed, though, and what I'd be willing to explore/do differently than in my 20s.

    4. Maybe this varies with SLEs but I spend my time trying to get IEIs (and SEIs) to verbalize what they think, and they don’t have to manipulate me to get what they want. I think it creates a good positive Fe atmosphere. Maybe it’s different with other SLEs.
    I think this is an incredibly valuable asset of a healthy SLE. So thanks

    What makes an SLE ready:
    1. They have to be open minded enough to not pass any Ni as BS, they should be able to listen at least
    2. Show basic care like asking about your day, listening
    3. Knowing that they aren’t the center of the world and not everything revolves around them
    4. Knowing when to cut a IEI on their BS, because IEIs can take things for granted. Just because SLEs can fool around doesn’t mean IEIs can purposely waste their time
    What are some ways you've noticed IEIs can take SLEs for granted?

    I think that these come naturally in duality so I wouldn’t ‘wait’ for the perfect moment. I know that in the process both personalities get better
    A hopeful thought.

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    Not only am I not ready for my dual, I'm not ready for any relationship whatsoever. I'm an overweight alcoholic, I'm 27 and basically a virgin, every single day I think about how much I hate people and the world in general, and I'm very emotionally immature/insecure. It seems like the idea is that SLEs are supposed to be fucking everything that moves etc, and I don't live up to that in any way, so I don't think I'll ever be "ready" for an IEI, or atleast not be what they expect me to be. I'm not sexy, I'm not confident in myself, I'm not any of the things that you expect me to be. But I am SLE, why? Because I'm stronger and more powerful than anyone else, I am an absolute psycho, you have no idea. But as far as interpersonal relationships goes, I'm just completely retarded, and I'll probably never be what any woman wants me to be. I feel like I'm a super hero, I'm just better than everyone else, but I'm incapable of forming any sort of meaningful connection with people. And I'm not attractive, I'm just big and powerful and everyone is scared of me, but I'm not the sort of person that anyone would ever be in love with. People have this meme idea of that chad SLE, but I'm more like a forrest ogre or something, not exactly attractive, but very strong and dangerous. These "chads" that you all like to worship, I have friends like that, and they're all affraid of me.

    So when will I be ready? Maybe some day when I've lost some weight and have gotten over the last shred of care that I have for other peoples opinions, and when I've gotten over my own insecurities

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    Quote Originally Posted by faith View Post
    I usually have to save the IEIs a** when it comes to doing projects with her because she’s really bad at Se. Our field is very spontaneous, and she doesn’t do anything to save herself. When I’m in a group with her I would do 70% of the work, and the other 30% I have to guide her through it. She still manages to find the most irrelevant mistakes and stress me out about it. She doesn’t do this to other group members, she’s nit-picky when it comes to me because she knows I’d ‘understand’. I usually score well when working alone or with other partners, so I know what I’m doing. She knows what I’m doing yet she still acts bratty.
    Well that stinks. It's hard when people don't take responsibility for themselves.

    The same goes for another SLE that I know, an IEI is so accustomed to her he treats her like shit sometimes. I don’t know why it’s us specifically, they don’t do this with other types because (maybe) other types don’t give them enough face or attention. Which is why I always say that LSIs are better for unhealthy IEIs, because an LSI wouldn’t make an IEI feel understood therefore they would cut down on complaints.
    Hmm, time to get another friend.....I don't have enough duality experience to speak into why that could be happening. It sounds like a dynamic where an unhealthy person has gotten comfortable with little to no boundaries or consequences. But strange it only seems to manifest around the SLE Does it seem like she thinks the SLE is the only one who can "take it," or it's just that the SLE is only one who won't push back?

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    Quote Originally Posted by faith View Post
    @Emily lol that’s one big giant roast for IEIs. But anyhow, news says that IEIs think themselves as special even before they go through the MBTI bs, I think that also carries through the relationship. I’ve read somewhere that function-wise they tend to think themselves as better because of their Ni. The example was given of religion, with religion they do things that makes them think that they are above others, when really they are recreating extremism. Veganism is IMO an Ni-Fe concept, people in it don’t realize how privileged they are to be practicing veganism (lack of Se and Ti to understand that.)
    Haha, occasional roasts are probably good for us. I can speak only for myself and say that I used to feel like something was wrong with me rather than special. I think both of those feelings about one's self--either being super "special" and "above" everyone or on the flipside alien and inferior--are a result of feeling disconnected from others and a poorly developed sense of identity. It seems like a lot of IEIs don't have a lot of people in their growing-up years who can properly reflect their true self back to them. IEIs are a little strange, a little different. Especially if they're highly empathic. If you're not around people who "get" you--and you're not an Fi dom who is born with an innate understanding of who you are--the only way to cope or make sense of your identity is to create a story around yourself where you are either super above everyone or horribly inferior/different. But of course neither one of those is your true self (and it's not an excuse to treat others poorly).

    Interesting thought about veganism. The vegans I've known have mostly been Delta NFs, and one EIE who did it for health reasons, so I'm not sure the correlation with type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viktor View Post
    It seems like the idea is that SLEs are supposed to be fucking everything that moves etc, and I don't live up to that in any way, so I don't think I'll ever be "ready" for an IEI, or atleast not be what they expect me to be.
    For what it's worth, this is not what I expect an SLE to be, and not even close to what I look for in a man.

    So when will I be ready? Maybe some day when I've lost some weight and have gotten over the last shred of care that I have for other peoples opinions, and when I've gotten over my own insecurities
    You don't have to be perfect to enter a relationship. Get healthy for you because you're valuable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    For what it's worth, this is not what I expect an SLE to be, and not even close to what I look for in a man.



    You don't have to be perfect to enter a relationship. Get healthy for you because you're valuable.
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    There's no such thing as ready. You have to take a risk with your heart so love can find you. You will never feel ready about anything in life you just kinda take the jump and do the best you can.

    The more confident you are at fixing your own life the more you will pick somebody that is compatible for you probably. A working relationship requires more logical components than just feeling for somebody. I've seen people fall in love too much and get burnt because they kinda fell for a narcissist's image.

    And you need to be attracted to the person of course, but I've seen so many failed relationships where people were IN LUST with somebody and they called it 'love' but it was clear as day to other people that it was just lust. Lust actually isn't the enemy to me, but I think it does sadly turn into that when people confuse it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faith View Post
    @Emily lol that’s one big giant roast for IEIs. But anyhow, news says that IEIs think themselves as special even before they go through the MBTI bs, I think that also carries through the relationship. I’ve read somewhere that function-wise they tend to think themselves as better because of their Ni. The example was given of religion, with religion they do things that makes them think that they are above others, when really they are recreating extremism. Veganism is IMO an Ni-Fe concept, people in it don’t realize how privileged they are to be practicing veganism (lack of Se and Ti to understand that.)
    I know exactly what you mean with this. I think though that IEIs (like anyone) who act like this actually have unhealthy low or fluctuating self-esteem. I like the IEIs who are truly confident for real things they have accomplished.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faith View Post
    I usually have to save the IEIs a** when it comes to doing projects with her because she’s really bad at Se. Our field is very spontaneous, and she doesn’t do anything to save herself. When I’m in a group with her I would do 70% of the work, and the other 30% I have to guide her through it. She still manages to find the most irrelevant mistakes and stress me out about it. She doesn’t do this to other group members, she’s nit-picky when it comes to me because she knows I’d ‘understand’. I usually score well when working alone or with other partners, so I know what I’m doing. She knows what I’m doing yet she still acts bratty.

    The same goes for another SLE that I know, an IEI is so accustomed to her he treats her like shit sometimes. I don’t know why it’s us specifically, they don’t do this with other types because (maybe) other types don’t give them enough face or attention. Which is why I always say that LSIs are better for unhealthy IEIs, because an LSI wouldn’t make an IEI feel understood therefore they would cut down on complaints.

    Fe is like that, they only act shitty once they know that there won’t be social consequences.
    You should not let their behaviour persist. You should call them out for it. Stop helping them or work with other people if they keep acting that way, or at least tell them that their behavior is too much considering how much you’re helping them. Don’t be an enabler.

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    SLE guys are basically the easiest type to attract lol @Emily . If you wait too long to spread ‘em then they might get exasperated and hate you though. All you have to do is exist, and be acceptably hot, quiet and introverted. In other words, just be yourself.

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    @Viktor you say you are not confident in yourself but and you appear to be quite confident in these beliefs of yours.

    but I'm not the sort of person that anyone would ever be in love with
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rebelondeck View Post
    After one has had several failed relationships and libido has slipped to second place.....

    a.k.a. I/O
    I'm 53 and libido is what makes me want to be in a relationship with a woman first and foremost. If sex is not the main reason, I might just as well share my life with a man. That would probably be a lot easier ;-)

    On a more serious note: I do think libido often is driven by all kinds of frustrations and stress, and that duality, once happening, can actually lessen the neurotic nature of ones sex drive, decreasing the need for sex (as a way of letting off steam).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalinoche the Child View Post
    @Viktor you say you are not confident in yourself but and you appear to be quite confident in these beliefs of yours.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Viktor View Post
    Are you in love with me?
    yes
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    Nothing good is a miracle, nothing lovely is a dream.

    Επί πάντων μέμνησο τα έσχατά σου, και ου μη αμαρτήσης

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalinoche the Child View Post
    yes
    How many kids should we have?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viktor View Post
    How many kids should we have?
    should?
    honest labor needs no master

    Nothing good is a miracle, nothing lovely is a dream.

    Επί πάντων μέμνησο τα έσχατά σου, και ου μη αμαρτήσης

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    The world is not ready for me or I am not ready for the world. Either way I am constantly questioning my own existence on this planet or better to be put: I don't know if this is a life or some sort sick game played by someone with higher consciousness of which I am not capable of grasping.

    So can "to be ready" be real itself, dunno.

    Anyway, if I was ready for the world I'd also be ready for the dual. Simple as that.
    Measuring you right now

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalinoche the Child View Post
    should?
    We can start with 3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viktor View Post
    We can start with 3
    can?
    honest labor needs no master

    Nothing good is a miracle, nothing lovely is a dream.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viktor View Post
    That's very inspirational, you should become the president
    Thanks for your support. I'll need a running mate, preferably one with ogre-like qualities who can also act as a bodyguard. Know of anyone?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalinoche the Child View Post
    can?
    We might start with 3

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    Thanks for your support. I'll need a running mate, preferably one with ogre-like qualities who can also act as a bodyguard. Know of anyone?
    I can be your bodyguard, but I take payment in beer and kisses

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viktor View Post
    I can be your bodyguard, but I take payment in beer and kisses


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    It depends on the age and preferences of each dual. I mean you are ready for someone if you are in the same wavelenght. Its not the same an IEE male 20 yo on collegue in the US to an christian IEE female on her 35 with a child in Tailand. Even when they are both the same type their lifestyle and needs are different.

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    Me and my body are always ready ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

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