Member Questionnaire 1 (Vee)
What is beauty? What is love?
Beauty is different for each people but has some related points. Someone can find someone very beautiful while some don’t. For me beauty is something aesthetically pleasing, but sometimes it can be more abstract and i can find beauty in something that evokes good feeling in me, like a song for example. But a sad song can be beautiful too so beauty is something that evokes deep feelings in you i guess.
Love is admiring someone, liking them, wanting to spend time with them, I wouldnt say it has to be unconditional can love someone while expecting love in return. But when you expect material things then yeah its not love.
What are your most important values?
Creativity to express myself, my feelings and opinions while also having fun with it. Confidence to stand up for myself, believe in myself, accepting and loving myself because when and if everyone leaves, you only have yourself. Productivity or ambition to achieve my goals and have confidence in myself. Fun and enthusiasm so life would be worth living..
Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place?
I believe in a creator I guess, but not in like holy books. i believe god is energy and possibly the universe itself. It makes sense to me. I hold those beliefs because it makes sense to me.
Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you?
I don’t understand the point of war at all, why cant we all be sharing and kind? I think war is because of greedy people, its only good when it comes to defense but i dont really understand those who attack, its for greedy reasons i think. But maybe thats the only way to survive sometimes, i dont know much to say about that.
To me, power means leadership, its guiding people to the right cause, its being confident and talented at what you do, and sometimes being the at what you do. But you can be powerful without being the best i guess
What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why?
I like to have conversations about things that make me think, i like to think of multiple views to achieve the true or truest result. I like debates, it makes me think. I dont like small talk so much, it gets boring. I get bored and then i talk nonsense because of it, i would say anything just to join the conversation. I like to talk about myself lol, my dreams, my goals, i like to introduce myself to people, although sometimes i dont know what to say or i am shy about it. Like when people talk me about what i do to have fun in life...I realize how boring my life is and how much time i spend on daydreaming instead of doing..
I love music, its expression, its fun, its creative.
I like playing guitar sometimes, its fun and gives me confidence and relaxation when im good at it
I like creative writing because again, expression (unless its a story rather than what im thinking) ,its fun and its creative.
I like spending time online because i feel most comfortable here, probably because people dont see my face and my possibly awkward body movements, its like im more confident and less shy here. i also have great friends online and they make me feel loved in a way no person in real life can (besides my family) i have fun with them. And also online i can find and do many interesting things like gaming and socionics/ enneagram heh. If i find an interesting game, which is usually story-based,it is fun and fun way to past the time. I like learning about socionics/ enneagram because i’d like to know myself, sometimes its like i dont know who i really am, like im a different person there and there, and a different person in my head.
I should decrease my time on social media though because i need to live in real life too.
Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body?
No I’m not interested in medicine and health, only when im sick so i would know what to do to heal myself. I dont care much about. Talking about mental health is more interesting than physical health though. Because i wanna vent and feel better about myself and my life and help People to do the same by inspiring them and showing them their worth.
I feel kinda detached from my body, its not easy to explain really. But i know when im hungry and sometimes when im thirsty.
What do you think of daily chores?
They are important but i dont like doing them because im lazy, i cant do something i dont want to do easily. To be honest i got so used to my parents doing them for me... i feel guilty and immature for not doing them.
Books or films you liked? Recently read/watched or otherwise. Examples welcome.
I like harry potter because i like fantasy stuff and the idea of a magical school. I like movies that make me think and have a plot twist, i like movies with characters i can relate to and i like inspiring movies. Well i reallt like the show How i met your mother, its fun, funny and the characters are so loveable, almost like a family to me i guess lol.
I liked fantastic beasts:crimes of grindelwald. I thought grindelwald was an interesting character because of his past with another character (dumbledore) and i like the way he’s not just pure evil like voldemort but more manipulative, He makes you understand his point of view..I also like time-travel things.
What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why?
I cry when i Feel bad about myself. And sometimes something bad happening to people i care about. Cute animals make me smile lol and people i care about and them being happy ig.
Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging?
Online because like i said i feel more comfortable, and cared for, where people like me and accept me just the way i am. Its also an asier way to find people with common interests for better converstations and friendship.
What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself?
People see me as lazy and immature..and i am..and i dislike that traits of me too much too. I also hate how easily offended i get and my shyness and anxiety.ı
What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself?
I think they think im sincere, open minded and maybe fun. I like that im open minded and creative..i also like the way i dont give up on what i want easily and dont give in to others opinions on what i should do instead, even i feel discoraged, I would pause but try again sometime.
In what areas of your life would you like help?
I’d love to be more productive and confident. So i can get what i want and feel good.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it.
Yes, in high schools years i was very shy and didn’t have any friends, i would be scared that i will always stay that way, sometimes even thinking about past hurts, i guess i didnt completely get over it yet.
It would feel like things are repeating themselves, like, i am bad then im good then bad again, i feel good now but who cares, i will be sad again”
It made me depressed and withdrawn, also angry at myself and for others for not noticing im hurt.
What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with?
I like people who are fun to be around,funny, open-minded and trustworthy of course. Having common-interests are also very important because if we dont have any, the relationship wouldn’t be so fulfilling, like we might not have interesting conversation that interests all of us in the friendship. I dislike people who are judgemental and close-minded. I also dont like people who are not open to experiences so much...
How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner?
i am definitely not sure if i had a legit crush, at least so far. I dont look for a romantic relationship either at this moment.Yeah it could be cool and exciting but its not necessary. Romantic relationships can make life better but they’re not so necessary. But if i had a partner, i would want the same qualities with my desired friendships but more romantic i guess, like hand holding and kissing and stuff...
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why?
First, i would like my child to be kind to others, and also to themselves. I wouldn’t want to put them in hard situations in life so i’d want them to be confident with self-acceptance/self-love. I wouldn’t be so strict of them but i also would know when its necessary to put on some rules.
A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction?
i would disagree but wouldn’t say anything about it immediately. i would try to consider if they could be right. If i feel i have a close enough friendship with my friend, i would be honest about it.
Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one.
i see people as individuals. They are all different.and one of the society’s problem is to judge them without actually knowing anything about them. We are also part of the socierty and we should work on to make it better.
How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them?
I choose my friends based of how they react to me and based on our common interests. If i feel close to a friend, i would act like myself, which is sometimes random and sometimes serious or maybe both. But if im not feeling so close, i would be afraid of conflict, would be kinda shy, with my words and my body language. However if im not comfortable with someone, i dont really like to tell them my friends, just people i know.
How do you behave around strangers?
well I might look shy, introverted and quiet. and I really hate being called shy and quiet because thats not how i want to be and how i want to seen as... I am not introvert either, I love socialising! well most of the time lol, it also depends on who I hang out with, if I am comfortable and we do have common-interests. With strangers, my body language is shy. But i realized that if i find a common interest with a new person, I became more comfortable and quick to talk.