Maybe you´re reading too much into it; some bit of competition while cooking or doing something at work can just be tongue in cheek?

Even though I have lost a ESI-Se male friend because he royally screwed me during a cycling competition. I waited for him during 3 climbs, but at the fourth climb, when i showed a bit of tiredness, he accelerated. But he had always been envious of my "skills", I saw it coming. I forgave him, but if I could screw him again, I´d royally would, even though 12 years have passed.