Emily, my son is a Secure SLE-Ti. I think he is an 8w9 but not totally sure as Enneagram is not my strength (or real interest). I would sure like him to meet a thoughtful, intelligent insightful IEI-Fe as you seem to be. I really want his life to be gifted with the complimentary gifts of his dual, and to have that comfortable acceptance a dual gives, as well as that continued interest and enjoyment of each other. But he is in his early 20s, generally a very different place at your ages...