4 attachment styles is another typology which is not known to locals on practice to compare. And it looks doubtful as an approach.
Duality is among factors to help establish good friendship, relations useful and emotionally good for both.
Secure attachment type is said to establish relations which partly fit to good friendship and partly have similar influence on psyche.
"10 signs of secure attachment in adult relationships:
- Able to regulate emotions and feelings in a relationship
- Strong goal-oriented behavior when on your own
- Great at bonding, opening up to, & trusting others
- Knowing what you’re about in life and what purpose you want to fulfill
- Can communicate your needs effectively
- Feeling like you have an impact on the world around you
- Comfortable with closeness & mutual dependency
- Actively seek emotional support from your partner and also give emotional support to your partner
- Comfortable being alone and use that time to explore
- Strong capacity to reflect on how you are being in a relationship"
What here may have an opposing to friendship:
- Strong goal-oriented behavior when on your own
- Comfortable being alone and use that time to explore
In a friendship people are linked in a compassion and prefer to act _together_ in max of deals, as parts of one.
So important tasks ("strong goal-oriented behavior") and risky tasks ("time to explore") are prefered be done together. Hence, when people are alone that kind of behavior is much reduced. What is true is that general self-assurance arises for those who has better relations with other people, especially good friendship with someone. But such people who may to use cooperations will tend to do it in mentioned cases, instead of dealing on own.
So that theory of "attachments" has some inner contradiction, when people have high individualism and meanwhile excellent interactions with others. In reality individualism becomes an obstacle to make good relations, predisposes to other psyche traits and behavior with people.