@myresearch, this is very insightful. The woman VI's like an ESI and I'm pretty sure she is an ESI-Se e6, but I'd call her Avoidant (she's 42 and never been married) and her father is SLI. She has a thing for SLI's (her Daddy is one), but she also showed me a picture of the only guy she ever considered marrying, and he was a clear ILI. I know a few female IEE's, and she's not at all similar to them.
But it is interesting that you said she sounds like an IEE. I imagine that her father has strongly influenced her. And not in a good way.
And, of course, it is also possible that I have mis-typed everyone related to this clusterfuck.