Per the title, is that the product of dysfunction, given that a dual relation is meant to effectuate typological completiton? In shunning it for immediate, unchallenging and comfortable stimulation?
Perhaps it is that dual relations are most rewarding but most taxing - whereas based upon the descriptions of Illusionary and Activity relations - they are gratifying without having to do too much to gain it; and happily require that participants of the respective dynamics, separate so that they don't either overstimulate the other in the case of Activity partners or because accomplishing a task of any great significance with Illusionary partners, is described as an impossibility - and that lesiurely frivolity is all that is feasible.
Specific to my type, the ILI, I find SEEs (sorry to any SEEs) unbearably hedonistic, hyperactive, superfical, myopic and whorish (male or female). Whereas I'm far more endeared by ESIs and their manner, as they seem much more elegant, considered, attentive to detail, artistic, mature, calm, asethetic, stylish, introspective (as introverts of course) channelled and peaceful. And I don't see any reason for myself to have a bias against SEEs in favour of ESIs - although my first crush as a nine year old was for an ESI. But I see much of those traits in other ESIs that I've met. Similarly, I cannot tolerate SLEs, whereas LSIs seem much more thoughtful and strategic. I attribute my preference to a secondary Se lending itself to being a tool to the person rather than governance of them. Primary Se users are inescapably childish in their energeticness with very short attention spans to me. I'd like to know if I could possibly improve that perception.
Relative to IEEs, it's obviously for the comfort of sharing the same primary function, while feeling simultaneously somewhat productive, how ever fleetingly, for training one's mobilising function with their creative function, while the mutual primary function serves as a mediator or translator.
From what I can tell, it seems that I'm more comfortable training my suggestive Se with those who only use it in service of a stronger function and gain from seeing a primary function in common, being used to translate or subordinate one's mobilising function as a creative function in the Illusionary partner.
Ultimately, is it normal for dual/semi dual relations to generate psychic unease, can it be lessened or done away with and is it symptomatic of neglecting Se?