I think that @
Rebelondeck stated it best when he said that people with
opposite values (LIE-Te and ESI-Fi) don't step on each other's toes, and this might outweigh the attraction that they have for people who have their own enhanced values. Similars attract, but then they try to assert themselves in similar areas and this can cause some clashes.
For example, I (an LIE-Te) find ESI-Se's to be physically beautiful and sexually attractive attractive attractive, while I find most ESI-Fi's to be calm, retreating, practical, non-obtrusive, mentally flexible (yeah, I actually said that), and thoughtful. If I could actually GET an ESI-Se, I'd probably run with that and be happy, but ESI-Fi's seem to be more deeply attracted to me, although they are less obvious about it.
I have a great ILI-Te friend, and he's married to an ESI-Se. They get along pretty well for an average married couple, but I think they also have some problems. She wants more and more varied sex than he's willing to provide, and while they are Activity partners, they don't seem to do that many things together. They actually like it when I visit them, because the ILI-Te has someone logical who is also up for doing stuff, and the ESI-Se has someone around (me) who actually does physical stuff like she does. (I clean the kitchen and do the dishes, which she appreciates because the ILI guy doesn't because he spends a lot of time in his imagination, rather than the house.
I think they have a Very Good marriage, but not an Optimal marriage.
If the ILI-Te were married to an SEE-Fi, I think she'd have a better ability to affect him in a positive way, and vice-versa. But honestly, if you add in the very important compatibility factors of similar intelligence, similar social backgrounds, and similar world-views (all of which they have), they are doing pretty well. If you wait for perfection, you are going to be alone for a long, long time.