If anything, Fe valuing causes ILEs and SLEs to be more aware of the emotions of others and less aware of their own. But they use and manipulate the feelings of others to get what they want. Fe egos do the same thing, but more skillfully and often with more mindfulness of the net effect of their behavior. The snap back that Fe HA types get comes because they take Fe too far.

Fi, on the other hand, cares about itself, and is more likely to regularly offend the feelings of others. It's kind of like what Ben Shapiro said: "Facts (Te) don't care about your feelings (Fe). [They care about their own (Fi).]"