An Ijs inner dual (that desire to connect) would likely have emerged often in youth but then disappeared in adulthood except, perhaps, during some times of uncertainty, insecurity and or stress. It does seem to emerge again in one's later years but I often wonder if it's due to accumulated practice over the years, or because slowing down and lowering expectations free up more time to contemplate secondary issues. For me, I certainly wouldn't attribute it to deliberate learning........
a.k.a. I/O