Yes it is manipulative Myst, they will often twist your own words to suit their own institutional agenda while having the veneer that they are "helping" you and society all at the same time. I mean what you said just proves to me you probably don't have much experience in dealing with those people in real life like I do. Sorry if that comes off condescending but...

As for your other point I think you are correct in the sense that males don't have to deal with that crap like women do. Somebody being nice and trying to use friendliness as a tool to get what they want. I'm a man, unlike you. People in society don't really deal with me like that... as much as they just have a kill or be killed attitude when dealing with me. Which is annoying to me for different reasons.

They leave me alone more because they know I can squash them into bits. They won't be nice to me like they would a woman at all its more like either run away from me or instantly squash me themselves. In society's eyes, men are like assassin DPS classes even the cute IEI ones. We are expendable nobodies. It's just very different as a guy... and that is part of the reason men are more accepting of 'niceness' compared to a lot women I think, and women stereotypically want power & protection in romantic relationships and men stereotypically just want kindness and peace. As its balancing and healing for both.

But still not all niceness is like some selfish manipulative game like we keep trying to tell you. It is sometimes just genuine and not manipulative. How do you ever know? Well Time/Ni will tell, I think.