SLI-IEE dating behavior (ENFp & ISTp)

[Adam Strange]

Ep temperamented teenager. What else are you going to do except crush on someone... and when that person doesn't technically betray you but is just... kind of unavailable, when they don't stop you but rather try to be friends... what is that except a hint to chase further? Surely he was just being coy. Surely. And if he's a bit gay, doesn't that just add to the beautiful drama.

Gah.

The situation was even more stupid than what I've described previously. It was an art school. Hence, there were 21 guys out of 190 students. About a third of the guys were gay. She was the most easygoing and nice girl you could imagine, so about half of all the guys were fluttering around her. So... You had maybe 150 girls and about ten guys hating her either on principle or for her stupid affections.

Fun times.

So she immersed herself in a social atmosphere that included gay men and chased a gay guy for many years and then ended up marrying a priest?
Sounds like she was So-first and sx-last, not an uncommon stack for SLI females. She also seems like she liked guys who were sexually unavailable but very social.

Weirdly enough, my SLI ex had a very close gay male friend as a teenager, went to church every week, and now has befriended this weird old guy who lives alone with his cats and plays backgammon with her once a week or so. He is about as sexual as a pile of rubbish, which he actually resembles in some ways. I doubt if she will ever have sex again, but she's fine with that.

[Smilex]

Female was ENFp
The ESTj priest she found in a bar, drinking. Nice guy, good public speaker, handsome.