Originally Posted by
ESTP
Tell you what...have you told him...something along the lines of this:
Listen...I hope you know, that what you're doing is wrong for these reasons: :::: tell him what you think and how you feel about him without any reservation, pour your heart out, dont be scared of telling him EXACTLY how you feel, regardless how EMO it sounds:::::: and then say.... now knowing all that, should you change your mind down the road, I WILL NOT take you back. I will not let you put me through this crap, hurt me the way you did and then come back when you realize what we had.
Tell him, you will NOT do this again. It's his last shot. And quite frankly, if he doesnt think it through or weigh his options and still leaves...then you gotta cut him out. Because, at the end of the day...just as much as you love him...you still have to hold on to the fact that you're a worthy human being with feelings. You, just like him, want to feel wanted, needed, appreciated, and if he loves you and is doing this for stupid reasons...really, don't put yourself in that position again.
I know it sucks, but qutie frankly, ultimatums are sometimes the way to go. Especially in insances such as this. I know it may not seem like it, and I too have a hard time accepting it but at least i realieze this, but there are other "fish in the sea" so to speak. He may seem like this is it...and you'll never find anyone better than him, but in the same instance...think of how many other people youve been with or thought they were amazing and you wouldn't find "anyone better than" and you met this guy who you think the world of.
People come into our lives, for whatever reason (not in a metaphysical sense) but sometimes, they are lessons to be learned.
To exemplify my instance...if anything, if nothing happens and if this is the end all be all. At least, he's a lesson in life. He's honest, truthful, trust-wrothy, kind-hearted, super intelligent, caring etc etc. Everything my ideal person would have. However, the one thing and most important lesson I can take away from it...is that, there ARE still people left like that in the world. Before I met him, I was convinced they didn't and practically just said "fuck it". But, having met him...shows me that there's still hope. That there are people like that in the world, and eventually, I might find someone who embodies those things as well. BUt the point is, there are people like that, however rare. And, at the end of the day...the greast gift I've recieved from him so far is just that...hope. I'm not one to be the greatest believer in it...so imagine the significance of that.