Does anyone have a problem with this? Like I don't mind calling my dad, but if it's his birthday and I'm OBLIGATED to call him because of that I don't want to. I do, of course. But for some reason the fact that I am OBLIGATED to call him makes it different, and worse.
Other things too. I like to visit people, but if I feel OBLIGATED to, I have to drag myself there. Only a sense of guilt gets me through these things.
I love to write to people, but writing thank-you notes, an OBLIGATION, is a PITA. Again, I do it anyway because I would hurt people's feelings if I didn't, but I hate having to fulfill obligations.
What is up with that? Why is the same activity either easy and pleasant, or a PITA, based soley on whether it's an obligation?
I know my husband hates having to fulfill obligations too, so I thought maybe it's a Delta thing and not just an ENFp thing.