Originally Posted by
Eliza Thomason
Well I will weigh in for the type, but I don't have strong identification for your type so it might not be particularly helpful.
I did see SEI in you before, and after your "happy me" explanation here, I was thinking maybe INFp. Those are the two strongest likelihoods in my mind right now.
I am not seeing ENFp in you, myself, and that's my type. I do usually recognize if someone is ENFp or not. But I am not infallible and I could be wrong on that.
ESE in particular I am really not seeing. I rarely see ESE's here because they are so much into real-life social situations and family and friends. And none of the ESE's I know show interest in personality types. Maybe if everyone else is talking about it, they might be game to consider it, only while everyone else discusses it, or, if they can take a quiz and read a little explanation, fine. But to go on a forum and talk about it and read books and explanations of it - they just never seem to care that much. They have places to go, things to do and people to see, and not enough time to do it in.
I am also not seeing INTj so much, because the LII's I know are so busy talking or thinking or explaining beautifully about learnings, and I never see them reflect on "who I am" - that this is me happy, this is me sad. I just never heard them explain themselves - only explain the things/theories they think about.
So while I don't have your type pegged, I do find it easier to eliminate what I think a person is not. So, maybe this will help:
I judge you are NOT: not ESE, not LII, not SEE, not ESI, not EII, not LSI, not LIE, not LSE (too self-reflective, also way too busy to be into Socionics), not ISTp (also too self-reflective), not ESTp (same reason). Probably not ENTp, also too self-reflective for that type.
Wow, so that's ELEVEN out of 16! Narrows it down a bit. I am not getting an ILI vibe either. That leaves four. I would say probably not ENFp and probably not ENFj as well- so, if you agree with me on that, then that brings us back to the two I think you might be - SEI or IEI! And that should not be hard for you to determine between, if you look at Reinins, Cognitive styles and Quadra values, as well as your relationship type descriptions with people whose types you are quite sure of...
But to me determining your type is not really relative to happiness. Pursuing peace is. Anything not related to helping you in that way is just unimportant right now, it seems to me.
I felt sad when I read your happy-me list, because I could feel your longing to be more whole. I wish that for you - to be happy, whole and free. Not only do I wish it, but I will pray for that for you, vesstheastralsilky. I know you can get there, especially with the help of God, who loves you and desires to help you be happy and whole. So I will pray for that.