Hmmm. I definitely relate to a lot of the stuff with Se in that article. I actually relate to this. I don't feel the need to have to breathe fire or get really loud to get my point across. Of course if provoked or necessary I do so, and have done so at times I shouldn't have lol. Otherwise I prefer an approach similar to what the article states at the bottom. I do it in a stern logical way at first to wait and see. I'm not trying to make it a big deal or fight over territory- I'm simply trying to assert myself and my territory in a somewhat acceptable way. I know I can do it in a big way- but that usually provokes the other party into a stupid cock-swinging contest I want no part of lol. I wouldn't sit there and scowl though. I would find a way to say something. Usually my favorite method is a sarcastic clever direct remark about the issue at hand.
"You can be sure that the SLE won't allow anyone to trespass on his "territory" – around SLE you will always have protection. No, he won't go around yelling: "Stop! Don't dare to come in here!" as he wouldn't want to offend you. He will quietly close the door. Or he will sit in silence and scowl, or stand at the doorstep until you realize that you were not expected here. And shrug his shoulders at all the reasons that you give him."
I also relate to a lot of what it says for Ti. Reading more into it I relate to this part of the Ni description. When I get unhealthy or anxious I usually counsel my friends who seem to offer Ni for this exact reason to help me calm my anxiety.
"Feels very grateful to the one who can explain to him/her that everything will be alright, that everything will happen in its due time, and so on"
Like I know this myself, but I just want to hear it sometimes otherwise I remain anxious.
"Sometimes the SLE suddenly flares up over some minor thing and then quickly calms down – though it happens rarely, such flare-ups may be intense. During this time the SLE cannot control him/herself and may act out and tell everyone what he/she thinks of them. Believe me, you won't hear anything flattering about yourself, so it's better to not drive the SLE into this state. During the periods of such "emotional overheating" the SLE may leave, slam the door, turn off the phone, and in general do many strange things - behave himself inadequately, in summary."
I also relate strongly to this under Fe. I can act like a god dam child when I get upset because I have so much rage clouding my judgement. I don't like this about myself as it says. I also might have strong Fe though if that's possible. I definitely enjoy emotionally upbeat environments. I love when everyone is on the same page and all joking with each other myself being one of the main people cracking the jokes. I have worked as a server and customer service many years in my past and I think this has made me savvy with my Fe. I am pretty good at creating certain atmospheres, but I do feel like I need help maintaining them. Things such as positive emotional reactions from the people involved or spectating help me keep it going.
As for your other questions. I don't think I am easily led on.. Though according to others I can be. If someone is being friendly, I can be skeptical - especially if they are overly-friendly. I am not very trusting with people at all. In fact I find it difficult to trust. But when someone is the right kind of friendly with me, they can sneak their way into a period of trust until they show me a reason otherwise. I am overall not trustful of people though. Including my own family members.
I don't quite understand what you're trying to describe the steps as achieving the goal, but I'll try to answer.
I basically have a goal, for whatever reason. I think about the benefits of it and what it takes to get there and tell myself, you know what I can do it. I just need to figure out how. So for example, my working out. I don't have a specific goal as in I want to be 220 lb 6% body fat or whatever. My goal is to just get stronger, better shape, look better and feel better. So my next step to do this is decide what I want to look like loosely. Ok I want to be big and ripped. Not bulky. I want an aproximate build of someone like Dmitry Klokov. I know this takes many years to achieve naturally and I'm willing to work for that. Now I need to research routines.. I did research and was lucky enough to meet someone online who was like a guru of weightlifting and nutrition who I became e-friends with and he taught me everything I know. Much of which was verified through my own research and certification of nutrition later on.
So now that I have this info. I work towards the goal. I use my discipline and will to follow a strict diet. I go to the gym and love going. I love going and being dominant and aggressive in a place where it acceptable. There days when I want to sit on my ass and smoke weed, but I convince myself, just go and do that after. I go and start stretching to wake up and snap out of the funk. Then boom, I go- get pumped and bang out a good work out and go home to do the previously mentioned things anyway- just in a slightly more fatigued state. I have pushed myself through lots of days and work outs when I should have rested. Completely ignoring my body's signs and have burned myself out to the point of over training multiple times in the past. Not only do I love the progress and working to achieve my goal. Something about going to the gym and exerting all that aggression just feels amazing. In those times of over-training, I noticed something was wrong that my progress towards my goal was stalling. Along with depression and anxiety which are signs of over training, but even this wasn't enough to convince me to stop working out, but I would literally exert all my will int he gym then be burned out and out of it the rest of the day. I would only get pleasure from working out and smoking weed in those terrible states I would push myself to at times. It only happened maybe 3 times in my life but each time the state lasted around a month. One lasted almost 4 because of how deluded I was becoming.
So I would research through google my symptoms and come across things like CNS-fatigue, over training etc and realize this is what I was experiencing and read the neccesary information to learn how to fix it and prevent it from happening next time. Now I am well aware and can sense it coming and know exactly how to eat and rest and work out to prevent this from happening and keeping me on track and pace to working towards this ultimate goal which isn't really one. It's just a continuous push to constantly better myself.
Another goal I have is moving to California. I went to Los Angeles and absolutely fell in love with all of So-Cal. (I'm a Russian immigrant living in New Jersey). So I set the goal of moving there. Now I just need to keep working. Make money and keep saving which I have been. Hit my 3 years at my job to receive my tax free 401k match, then get a higher paying job to save more.. eventually I want to have maybe $20,000 in my savings not counting my 401k before I move over, and hopefully with a friend or my girlfriend to pay rent and team with them up to help us better get by.
Yes to all of the above. I am strong. I feel strong. I don't want to be seen as strong to feel strong. I want to be seen as strong because I am worried that although I am strong, someone may try to harm me if I am not radiating it. I know it sounds silly but I have went through a lot of abuse in my life that led me to having this perspective. Even though most people really don't bother me. Even when I'm not giving off the "strength". I'm becoming better at not having to present myself this way because I know internally this is how I am regardless. Just that irrational fear sits in the back of my head sometimes. I just naturally attract attention. So when I go out in public and I am just relaxing and having a good time, a lot of boisterous and swaggering men feel the need to challenge me, to which I usually verbally (at times, rarely though,physically) have to put them in their place (the place of what the fuck is wrong with you can't you just leave someone having fun alone?) However when I am coming off with the strength I mentioned before. As in radiating it externally irregardless of feeling it internally, they are too afraid to even try.