Quote Originally Posted by Animal View Post
The issue isn't that the latter is judging you and the former isn't. It's that, in the latter example, the person is evaluating you based on what they can get out of you; that is, they only value you based on how much they can exploit you.
That could be just as well the case with the former example. Seems naive to think otherwise.

Otherwise, you just have a form of social coercion.
So could saccharine love. The examples didn’t make that clear at all lol.

That's all I was saying in that first post that you apparently found demeaning, just in more pretentious language.
If that’s the case then it’d have to not only be pretentious but very roundabout.