If you are feeling "passed over" often by people you like you probably got a lot of social developing to do. I felt that way a lot when my self-esteem hit rock bottom in school when my life was really shitty and I felt dissatisfied with myself for various reasons. Now that actually developed some level of social skills and am less shut-off then I used to be I don't feel passed over by people anymore unless they are people I wouldn't want to be around with anyway.