Originally Posted by
Bertrand
its funny because I feel like my parents have a similar point of view, but at the same time they continually talk and act as if they will in under no circumstances ever help me with their money, and its precisely that doubt about their willingness to get behind me, should I ever need it (which has pervaded their entire upbringing strategy from day 1), that makes me distance myself from them to the point where I don't care at all about their continual effort to accumulate an inheritance. the point for me is, if we don't have a mutually supportive relationship now, its like they're living in a future that neither of us will experience together. and if we never come together, at any point, but rather pass eachother in time, through this future exchange, which is never solidified in any moment, but continually disjoined, then there is no actual relationship... it has the character of them playing the relationship like a stock option, wanting a return now at the expense of the present, all in the name of a future, that because of the failure of the parent child relationship, may never come to pass or be anything like it could be. essentially they undermine their kids self esteem and well being and then say, when it no longer matters (when the child is past mid life and the parent is dead) "here is your reward." its basically killed everything valuable in exchange for a token that lacks all intrinsic value. from my point of view, they're entirely indistinguishable from a %100 selfish person with no kids, because the "gift" transfers only and precisely at the moment they stop caring about it, i.e.: when they're dead. and yet the relationship is seen as somehow supposed to be here and now, and yet it is no relationship, because there is no mutual support. it is a sleight of hand, one generation perpetuates on another, further compounded by the general plundering of the economy (although not all are guilty of this of course). i would rather inheritance did not exist at all, and parents genuinely cared for their children in the present, then filter it through some kind of abstract medium, because how are children, when they need to understand care the most, i.e.: when they don't understand economic concepts, and are young, when their personality forms, supposed to recognize the game their parents are playing and appreciate it (for whatever its worth, if anything)... it undermines the parent/child relationship right at the root, and the inheritance doesn't heal the scars caused at that early stage. it in fact causes them and it bleeds over not into just the parent child relationship but all their relationships, potentially killing them right then and there, although the effect on the body is not seen until it manifests in mental illness and suicide years later. and then people wonder why depression is at an all time high, why "kids these days" are so weak, its because we exchanged something real for a scam and you can't run a life on that without some kind of blowback proportional to the misdeed. the strength of those children will be to right this wrong cultural orientation toward life through hook or by crook, and suicide is voting with your life
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