Originally Posted by
fox
Interesting, I need this in relationships too, but the only difference is that I'd much rather be single than not have it. Unlike sexual types, I don't actively go looking for a relationship or feel as if I will die when I'm single (though, I do feel like dying a few months after a breakup because I feel as if I've lost part of myself). I have never actively gone looking for love, I just let it come to me organically. This is why dating sites are not for me.
For me, love is a very all or nothing concept. If I don't feel a strong intense and exciting connection with someone, I'd just rather be single. The thought of being with someone I see as dull or boring is actually sickening to me. The only issue here is that I often get into intense abusive relationships because for some reason, my brain can't distinguish abuse intensity with true passion. I am an adrenaline junky when it comes to relationships, and the ones that can't ignite any fire in me are just simply not worth it.
This is why I kind of want to be single forever... It's so relieving to not constantly feel like I'm in pain over sx stuff, so I can focus primarily on sp matters.