ESI - EII Dynamic (ISFj-INFj)

[PinKDiGiT18]

I have a lot of ESIs in my life. Never successfully built a close relationship with any of them.

I’ll take an account from my most recent experience with an ESI-Se romantic interest.

He started off courting me in very normal aggressor-like fashion, persistent contact, lots of bravado on his accomplishments...then when things started to get real, he ghosted. He came back and ghosted two more times before things ended.

If I analyze it socionically, we both felt a little weird about each other but there was a lot of attraction. He was very flighty, often made promises he couldn’t keep, and resented it when I called him out for it (Ne PoLR). He would egg me on in Se things, which I didn’t mind too much (I grew up around a lot of Se) but of course felt my limitations in. I thought we were a good pair but he either didn’t think the same or wasn’t comfortable with our dynamic.