Chae's Instinct Stacking Quiz!

[maniac]

"SX/SP ❤"





Agreed.

Fwiw, my relationships become my focus/obsession when I'm in them, and they are always "intense" but this probably relates more so to me being enneagram 4 and Beta. Imo, intensity in relationships doesn't have a lot to do with stacking, my IEE mother is sx first, and her relationships have never been anywhere near as intense as mine. When I'm single, I focus on myself 100% and don't bother to look for love. I also have a lot of manglik energy in my vedic astrology chart, which probably points to me have stronger sx for an sp/sx. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mangal_Dosha

"The planet of Mars represents respect, energy, ego and self-esteem. Therefore one with the Mangal Dosha has a volatile temper. Manglik individuals thus face a lot of problems in bending and adjusting with their partners. The energy of Manglik individuals can be compared to that of fire. Therefore this energy needs to be used in the right direction and in doing something constructive, or otherwise they might become ruthless. "

It kind of sucks that I have this, because all of my relationships have been agonizing af. :/ It's better for me to remain single, because I honestly can't handle that level of pain anymore, otherwise I may end up dead or in a mental institution.

As I've said many times that does sound like sx first. Far from all sx firsts "look for love" all the time, and I know sx lasts who have been relationship-addicts going from one person to the next. I dont either "look for love", that seems so unnatural and I dont need to be in a relationship, rather its a relief to be single because I get so obsessed in relationships and it puts me at the mercy of my jealousy and other emotions and I can't focus on other things.
What I look for when I'm among people is people who attract me, like I have an invisible antenna searching for people I can 'hook' into. It's usually men because I'm attracted to men but it can also be women, that I like the idea of merging with them and I like the idea of incorporating what I envision/idealize them to be into myself, im not even really interested in truly 'being their friend' or supporting them. But that's cause Im social last, and maybe a bad person. You could possibly be sx/so and if you are you'll be more genuinly interested in those kinds of real connections.

Sx second dont get that extreme level of obsession youre talking about, only in rare circumstances ive seen sx second or even last 'act' sx first, like at the breakup of a long term relationship, it may happen. But its not a recurring thing.

The inability to put sx aside and relax about it is what makes someone sx first.