Member Questionnaire 1 (TPeng)
What is beauty? What is love? Hmmmmhhh... Beauty is something what is pleasant to see or hear. Mostly to see.
Love... I think it is a feeling of connection with somebody or something... Really, I don't know exactly. Never had such experience.
What are your most important values? Intellect, smartness and knowledge. I like to learn something new, to train my brains and so on. It's hard for me to deal with stupidity, especially if the person is proud of it. I can understand the lack of education some people have, and also that some people were born with low level of intellect. I can accept this. But I don't understand when some people think that because of their stupidity they are better than people who is much cleverer.
Justice and equality of rights. Doesn't matter, if you have black or white skin, if you're a woman or a man, if you are straight or homosexual. We are all humans! We are equal, and in the same time we are different, because we are individuals. Infinite diversity in infinite combinations.
Discovery and research. You may know everything that have already been discovered, but it is almoust unimpotant while the world still hides lots of other secrets.
Nature. We are part of this world, and it is stupid to ruin the walls of our home, because the falling roof can kill us. And it is just beautiful.
Happiness, positive emotions. It is hard to live among people who are always serious and who doesn't like too much laughing even on holidays, and especially at work.
Do you have any sort of spiritual/religious beliefs, and why do you hold (or don't) those beliefs in the first place? I am not religious, but not an atheist. I think that it is impossible to prove now, does magic, gods and spirits exist or not, we don't have enough data, right methods and, the most important, we don't understand what we are searching for. I think that everything can be explained from the scientific point of view, but I am not sure that science is high-leveled enough to give the direct answer. Any myth has a seed of truth, but what part of it is really the truth?
Opinion on war and militaries? What is power to you? No wars, please. This world have seen too much blood and villaince. We are sentient beings, and we are able to use diplomacy, not weapon. But military is still necessary, because we need to protect ourselfs from those who don't understand this. It's like in a Buddhist tale. It is a taboo to kill a tiger, but you have a right to kill a tiger if that animal may kill a child right now.
For me, power is something very far from me but potentially dangerous. I don't want any power for myself.
What have you had long conversations about? What are your interests? Why? Actually everything connected with science, books, movies and animals. That is my sphere of interests, and I can spend ours speaking about it. Most of all I like to speak about astronomy, quantum physics, biology and sci-fi. Sci-fi and fantasy are my most favorite genres of literature and movies, also I am a big nature-lover, especially animal-lover, they are really cute. And the cosmos hides so many mysteries to discover and discuss, as well as the world of electrons and energy.
Interested in health/medicine as a conversation topic? Are you focused on your body? Okay, I will work in this sphere some years later))) But still I try to care about others health, and I really want to be able to save lives, I often forget about my own body. Sometimes I miss or don't understand signals my body tries to send me.
What do you think of daily chores? Oh shit help me someone... what is it... ha... okay... I'll try... <...> Okay... I've made this. I've really made this. Yeah... Or not? Shit, there is a tiny dirty point in the corner... mum don't kill me...
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I like fantasy and science fiction mostly, also detective stories and novels about animals. Also I admire humor. My favorite books are Harry Potter, the Chronicles of Narnya, Lord of the Rings, My Wife is a Witch, Noon: 22nd Century, Monday Begins on Saturday, books by Jules Verne and Gerald Durrell. Favorite films and TV shows: Star Gate, Star Trek, Star Wars, Merlin, Hetalia Axis Powers, Disney cartoons.
What has made you cry? What has made you smile? Why? If you see me crying, that means I am really sad or very tired to fight against someone's authority. Usually I don't show tears. But it is rather easy to make me smile, it is enough just to laugh somewhere nearby.
Where do you feel: at one with the environment/a sense of belonging? At night somewhere in a wild place, where I can see the stars. It is hard for me to feel full connection with the environment, if I can't see the Universe - the highest level of it.
What have people seen as your weaknesses? What do you dislike about yourself? Lack of social adaptation and laziness. Especially the first one. It is really hard for me to understand the people's reactions sometimes, and how to behave among them. But I don't worry about it so much. I don't like to work hard just for working hard, as most of people I know. Also they don't like that I can be stubborn and often show my disagreement with authorities.
As for me, I don't like about myself that sometimes I am not tolerant enough, and also that I depend on other people around me. Also I have such bad point, which I call "a Vulcan syndrome" (by the name of race of Vulcans from Star Trek). It means that I feel that in some cases my level of intellect is higher than average, and sometimes I judge other people without paying attention that it is not bad not to have the same level of intellect with me.
What have people seen as your strengths? What do you like about yourself? Intelligence and intellect, ability to understand rather difficult conceptions and to explain it in a more easy way, and also ability to solve rather difficult tasks which require logic and ability to put several facts in a linked structure. Also I have rather good imagination.
In what areas of your life would you like help? Housekeeping and communication with people, I think. I'm a bit sociophobic and have problems with understanding others, and also I have almost zero housekeeping skills. And I even not sure that I want do this myself, but I like comfort. May be, someone would like to do it together? It is much easier for me to take care of somebody else than of myself.
Ever feel stuck in a rut? If yes, describe the causes and your reaction to it. If the rut is connected somehow with things I like, I don't feel stuck. It is rather normal and comfortable way of living for me, I don't like when my life changes too fast.
What qualities do you most like and dislike in other people? What types do you get along with? Hmmm... It is difficult to analyze humanity in general, I prefer to speak about qualities of an individual.
But what I lIke most of all is the human's ability to think, research and discover. Our intellect became more than just a way to survive among more strong animals with better adaptation. We can use it to ask questions and to find answers. What is it? Why it exist? What laws of nature influence it? What is beyond that horizon? And we understood how to use answers on this questions not only for our own benefits, but also how to help others.
But at the same time most of the humans looks like stupid, unjust, aggressive and distructive animals who think only about themselves and how to get as much power and resources as that can, and they don't think that they destroy the world around them.
How do you feel about romance/sex? What qualities do you want in a partner? Have never had any experience, but I think that I may be demisexual (someone who needs strong emotional connection to fall in love) or even asexual. I don't think sex is something necessary between people who love each other. Just some warm hugs would be enough.
What is about partner... I think that my ideal partner must be my best friend. So he must have a lot in common with me, someone smart, logical and science-oriented. Nerds marry nerds, do you know that?))) But I also want him to be just, kind and caring. I need someone who would share my point of view about equality and who would be ready for "care exchange".
If you were to raise a child, what would be your main concerns, what measures would you take, and why? I will try explain him that he is an independent individual, that it is not necessary to follow someone or to be like someone else to succeed in life. But on the other hand I would explain the importance of intellect, education and logic. My child must understand that it is better to use brains then muscles. I will try to raise my child according to how I understand life, but if he would choose another way, the only reason not to promise it is a potential danger for his life, health and life quality.
A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward and outward reaction? I would be surprised, and I would want to know why my friend has such opinion. I will ask him/her to explain his point of view and to show me some arguments to prove it. After it I would explain why I have another opinion and why I think that my friend is wrong, so I prefer to solve the problem of misunderstanding through dispute.
My reaction usually depends on the quality of the opponent's arguments. If I see that my friend's argumentation is logical and based on actual facts, I will accept that he has a right to think this way, but it doesn't mean I will change my own. Usually I try to explain my opinion, and if it wasn't accepted, I just stay with my point of view. I need really strong argument to change my way of thinking.
Another situation is when person acts really in a stupid way, his opinion is based on unproven dogmas and non-sciencific raving and he is unable to prove it in a logial way. Such person can make me angry, but I usually don't feel much agression. I can become more strict and to speak a bit louder, but I still try to explain a person why he is wrong. If I failed, I would just stop dispute.
Describe your relationship to society. How do you see people as a whole? What do you consider a prevalent social problem? Name one. What is society? Ah... This people around me... Okay, there are nice people, but in general I don't accept their rules. I am a lonely wolf. I don't understand the principle of "collective responsibility", for example. Or why people usually follow authorities without asking, even if they don't agree, and why they are so aggressive to people who are different from them. I don't understand why it is better to lie and don't make somebody sad than to say the truth. I don't understand corruption, injustice and intolerance.
How do you choose your friends and how do you behave around them? I don't make friends "on the moment", it can take weeks and even more while I would be ready to say "You're my friend". So I stay with people who I feel comfortable with, who share my interests and able to discuss it and have a dispute.
How do you behave around strangers? Usually I just don't pay attention that there are people around, while they don't try to communicate with me. If it happens, I try to avoid it as fast as I can, I'm really afraid of communication with unknown people, especially with pressmen, homeless and drunk people. I have a mild form of sociophobia.
But it is when I walk outside. If I meet new people during some activities, for example some intellectual games or extra English classes, I stay silent and analyze people around me, but when I feel more comfortable with new people, I become more active.
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