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    > I often expect things from him, which he wouldn't be able to fulfill, thus disappointing me a lot.

    bad relations
    in good ones your wishes get the needed answer

    until you are in "good" external conditions your relations may satisfy you, but if your life will become harder and you'll need more of support in a pair - your relations will annoy you both

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    Quote Originally Posted by pasteldandelions View Post
    Uhh... bad relations meaning?
    The relations where you have a small support are bad.
    "expect things from him, which he wouldn't be able to fulfill"

    > I expected silly things like him replying me quickly, to prioritize me, etc. Kind of unrealistic expectations

    That you perceive your relations as self-centered is bad trait too. It's more like you in the center where the other should to serve your needs. In good relations you lesser think by own needs, but more by the needs of both. If there is no quick reply, then it's not comfortable for him do so - you accept this with compassion. While to "prioritize" you should have closer and more sincere relations, while you seem to be pals, not friends which have serious soul's attraction.
    Your IR may be different, but your relations as they are - not good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sol View Post
    The relations where you have a small support are bad.
    "expect things from him, which he wouldn't be able to fulfill"

    > I expected silly things like him replying me quickly, to prioritize me, etc. Kind of unrealistic expectations

    That you perceive your relations as self-centered is bad trait too. It's more like you in the center where the other should to serve your needs. In good relations you lesser think by own needs, but more by the needs of both. If there is no quick reply, then it's not comfortable for him do so - you accept this with compassion. While to "prioritize" you should have closer and more sincere relations, while you seem to be pals, not friends which have serious soul's attraction.
    Your IR may be different, but your relations as they are - not good.

    I don't know..if this was a romantic interest this would strike my insecurities. However, being the age and stage I am now I wouldn't let it bother me that much, still something would be very *wrong* if I found a romantic interest not responding to me with a generally quick reply (within a couple hours). Compassion isn't free.

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