So, How to date a dual and do I have one or is duality a myth?

[Minde]

Tho, some seem to view dating as an end and then sabotage because seeking whom to date is such a huge part of their life that if they find someone, it will become empty.
This last sentence isn't well forned, can't do better right now. The search is so consuming that finding would mean extinguishment, death; something like that.

Death is a transition. Lots of people don't do well with change.

[adage]

Death is a transition. Lots of people don't do well with change.

Yeah, a change indicates a loss, and a gain, lots of uncertainty. The loss is certain tho, the gain requires the loss to exist and doesn't seem granted, it's uncertain what will be gained. The "gain" may also be unwanted
As exemple, when one part of a couple wants to split up but not the other, they both gains their freedom to date back and the possibility to find someone better yet it doesn't necessarily feels like a gain, more like a burden, a bad fate.

The possibility of loss and gaining worse keeps many up at night.